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13 May 2012 @ 10:25 pm
 
I like the vast majority of people I interact with at work, which is awesome, especially given the size of my group and the other groups I'm in regular contact with. But, of course, there are some people I don't like, mainly just for that visceral "rub me the wrong way" thing, or because my first encounter(s) with them were them behaving badly.

For a variety of reasons, I've wound up having more personal interactions with several of these people over the last couple of weeks, and in every case, I've come away from it liking them substantially more than my first impression. None of them is going to become my new best friend, or even my new best friend at work, and in several cases, I still really dislike how they go about some project that relates to me or my time ... but it is really great to have a personal connection and sense of seeing each other as people who like each other, even if we're on really different pages or are working somewhat against each other on particular topics.

It is a great reminder of how valuable it is to take the opportunity to see my opponents or the challenging people in my life as people, and even when we're still generally distant, to find those places of connection and put energy into them.
 
 
I'm feeling: cheerfulcheerful
 
 
 
Mizarchivist: Fingers Crossedmizarchivist on May 14th, 2012 01:42 pm (UTC)
I hope I can be as thoughtful when I'm presented with this situation. And I will. It's just a matter of when.
drwexdrwex on May 14th, 2012 03:49 pm (UTC)
I should tattoo this on the inside of my eyelids
Along with the several other things I ought to remember more often...
Kcatkcatalyst on May 14th, 2012 04:58 pm (UTC)
OMG YES! I recently had an insight about one of my more frustrating colleagues. I have always liked him, but he has two really really annoying traits. (Like, problematic to the point of interfering with work getting done.) Recently I realized that these two traits were, in fact, both direct results of a certain aspect of his view on the world. It doesn't make them less annoying to deal with, but it makes *him* seem so much more reasonable as a person, with just one odd non-malicious quirk.