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10 February 2011 @ 03:37 pm
2011 confessional!  
Tell me a secret! Tell me a not-secret! Whisper sweet somethings in my comment box. Express your maddest crush or deepest curiosity! Expound upon the fabulousness of your friends or lovers or would-be friends or lovers! Or people you know or want to know. Do it anonymously or with your name attached; anonymous commenting is on and IP logging is off.

You know you want to!

ETA: FY'all'sI, to wrap up this year's confessional, I'll be turning IP logging back on FRIDAY afternoon (2/18) at 4PM EST.

I'm going to be moderating more closely than I have in the past. I'll especially be deleting comments that seem pointlessly mean spirited or that are obviously attempts to make up creepy rumors about people for your own vindictive spite. You know who you are.

One of the things I like about the confessional is the opportunity to say hard things, but it's important that they be productive, so I encourage you to consider the balance of your comments and refrain from harsh comments without substance.

If there's a comment that seems primarily to be about character assassination, I also encourage everyone not to engage with it. Don't feed the trolls!

If there's any comment about YOU that you'd like me to remove, please email me and I'll do that, unless you've trolled my livejournal in the past, in which case, please don't bother. You know who you are.

Remember that all those anonymous voices are people, some of whom you know and like, and all of whom are just people like you.
 
 
I'm feeling: curiouscurious
 
 
 
existential hot showerveek on February 10th, 2011 08:42 pm (UTC)
OMG THANK YOU for posting this at the end of a workday. :D
Rowan: Lickingmzrowan on February 10th, 2011 08:43 pm (UTC)
IT'S ONLY THURSDAY! Damn you, woman! :-P
phitotient on February 10th, 2011 08:45 pm (UTC)
I always look forward to reading the comments on this post. Even when I'm not in it, which is usually, it's a lot of fun to see who is.
(Anonymous) on February 11th, 2011 05:26 pm (UTC)
You totally are in it.
kinesthetic chutzpahdilletante on February 10th, 2011 08:45 pm (UTC)
hah, i was just checking to see if you'd posted this yet. :)
Thud.  Mac-Thud.macthud on February 10th, 2011 08:45 pm (UTC)
To help those who like to read *all* the comments in chronological order... the link that matters!
unintentionally intimidatingcoraline on February 10th, 2011 08:49 pm (UTC)
thank you! *bookmarks*
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 10th, 2011 11:01 pm (UTC) (Expand)
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born from jets!!!catness on February 10th, 2011 08:50 pm (UTC)
Maybe this year the comments will all be about the confessional itself, and not about any *people* at all. :) Boy, that confessional sure is hot!!!!
Thud.  Mac-Thud.macthud on February 10th, 2011 08:51 pm (UTC)
It's ... the MetaConfessional!
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(Anonymous) on February 10th, 2011 08:52 pm (UTC)
Confession: I am much less resistant to dealing with emails from a certain fussy corporate liaison I deal with at work, now that I've googled the liaison's name and discovered they're cute.
anonobot666.myopenid.com on February 10th, 2011 08:55 pm (UTC)
HEY EVERYONE! MAKE THIS CONFESSIONAL LESS ANNOYING!
Obviously you don't want to post as yourself; that defeats the purpose. But don't you hate trawling through hundreds of responses from "anonymous" and trying to figure out who the hell is talking to who?

Here's an easy solution:

1. Go to a free OpenID registry, for instance http://www.myopenid.com/
2. Register an account with a snappy username, like "anonobot666"
3. When it comes time to post to the confessional, post "From OpenID", and use http://mysnappyhandle.myopenid.com/ in the "From" field.

Ta da!
(Anonymous) on February 10th, 2011 08:58 pm (UTC)
Re: HEY EVERYONE! MAKE THIS CONFESSIONAL LESS ANNOYING!
Pseudonymity isn't anonymity!

Take all my posts from last year, and show them to someone along with the information that they're all by one person. Dollars to donuts, if that reader knows me, they'll know I was the author.
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Re: HEY EVERYONE! MAKE THIS CONFESSIONAL LESS ANNOYING! - (Anonymous) on February 10th, 2011 08:59 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: HEY EVERYONE! MAKE THIS CONFESSIONAL LESS ANNOYING! - cos on February 10th, 2011 11:36 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Eratic Philosopher & Gentleman Hobo: stuff _is_ awesomechillguru on February 10th, 2011 09:06 pm (UTC)
w00t! and we're off! good bye productivity. ;)
(Anonymous) on February 10th, 2011 09:07 pm (UTC)
Confessional meta-threads get me HOT.
(Anonymous) on February 10th, 2011 09:16 pm (UTC)
I am attracted to people who get hot for meta-threads.
(Anonymous) on February 10th, 2011 09:15 pm (UTC)
Every time I'm in the subway waiting for a train, and one starts pulling into the station, I think about jumping in front of it.

Like, I'm not even particularly suicidal and only depressed every now and again. And I don't ever think I would... I just think about it. Most every time.

Anyone else do this?
(Anonymous) on February 10th, 2011 09:18 pm (UTC)
I do that too. I hate it.
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(Anonymous) on February 10th, 2011 09:17 pm (UTC)
Okay, how often do people actually change the sheets on their beds?

1) In normal use with just sleeping;
2) After sex? Every time?
3) Does it matter if you shower at night or in the morning?

Totally was too embarassed to ask about this under cover of name.
(Anonymous) on February 10th, 2011 09:20 pm (UTC)
Shower in the morning.
Monthly or so, more often if it's hot out (sweaty) or with frequent or messy sex.
Immediately for really messy sex.
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(Anonymous) on February 10th, 2011 09:21 pm (UTC)
You want to know my dark, shameful secret?

I set up a Procmail recipe specifically for this thread, to route it to its own mailbox.
Shooting for the moonintuition_ist on February 11th, 2011 12:13 am (UTC)
you're a geek, and that's hot. ;)
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(Anonymous) on February 10th, 2011 09:23 pm (UTC)
I know this is horrible, but.

Sometimes I secretly wish I was in an abusive controlling relationship. The kind where the other partner wants to decide what clothes you wear and keep track of where you are all the time and who you talk to.

It feels like it would be so satisfying just to have someone actually care about what I was doing and where I was all the time.
(Anonymous) on February 10th, 2011 09:25 pm (UTC)
Er, you know you can have that without an abusive relationship, right?
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(Anonymous) on February 10th, 2011 09:25 pm (UTC)
my life-partner and i have been going through a tough time. we were poly for a while and then not. this has not been my need but my partner's. we're trying to find our way back to being poly, but it's a long, uphill struggle. poly is where i need and want to be, and the path back there has been so much longer than i ever realized it would be when i first agreed to temporarily not be poly, that now that there is a little bit of a crack in poly wall, i have a hard time believing it's going to be real.

in the meantime, i have had a number of people over the intervening years who have approached me, and whom i am interested in, that i feel really overwhelmed about what to do and where to turn. i don't want to suddenly be deluged with so many options that i get lost in a sea of choices, and it freezes me into inaction. i love my partner, and am grateful my partner is a part of my life and my future, but i fear not being able to get over the resentment i have over the lost years of not being able to be who i am.

it took so long in my own life to develop the courage to approach people i'm interested in, and all that self-development is gone and i'm scared about what to do. i wish all these years of processing could have taken place in some alternate universe so i could just jump back into my own timeline with nothing lost.

i'm babbling. i'll just post and see what the universe brings me.
drwexdrwex on February 10th, 2011 10:17 pm (UTC)
If you want advice
my advice is to bring your partner in on the decision. Even at this stage, saying "I'm interested in a potentially large number of people but I'm feeling overwhelmed; can you help me figure out how to start this?"
(no subject) - juldea on February 14th, 2011 10:29 pm (UTC) (Expand)