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17 May 2011 @ 01:58 pm
 

When you give yourself a talking to, do you most often refer to yourself

by first name
16(20.0%)
by last name
5(6.2%)
by nickname
6(7.5%)
as "self"
2(2.5%)
in the second person
24(30.0%)
in the first person
5(6.2%)
by friendly term/title (i.e. "friend")
6(7.5%)
by unfriendly slang term/title (i.e. "idiot")
10(12.5%)
by something you didn't think of!
1(1.2%)
I never give myself a talking to
3(3.8%)
other (see comments)
2(2.5%)
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What do you think we are, Monkeys on Sticks???goat on May 17th, 2011 06:02 pm (UTC)
I don't give myself a talking to, however, I do often give myself praise or pep talks. I find positive reinforcement and recognition of my success is much more fruitful than disciplining myself when I make mistakes. I call myself by my first name and say it all out loud.
stephanie m. clarksonthespian on May 17th, 2011 06:05 pm (UTC)
I don't talk to myself in that sense. But. When I am having a seizure, I talk to the hand. I have long conversations while I try to keep control of my brain, and one of the ways that I do is to yell at my hand. Conversations are usable like, "God dammit, Hand, we can't do this this morning, we have things to do," that I'll then list off at it.
metagnatmetagnat on May 17th, 2011 06:08 pm (UTC)
If it's a pep talk I will call myself by my name or a friendly title, but if it's really a talking to, it's bad names all the way.
Rowan: Springmzrowan on May 17th, 2011 06:30 pm (UTC)
With a really stern (but gentle) talking-to, it's "child".
Mizarchivist: Pounce!mizarchivist on May 17th, 2011 06:35 pm (UTC)
I really shouldn't be so hard on myself. Geeeeez. I suspect there's an inevitable seed-change on the horizon when I have more practice giving kinder constructive criticism. I certainly don't plan on swearing at my kid they way I do at myself (eep)
T Streichsweetbaboo on May 17th, 2011 06:57 pm (UTC)
No grief question:
"seed-change"? Is that a thing? What is that thing?
Mizarchivist: Bookworm hidesmizarchivist on May 17th, 2011 07:03 pm (UTC)
facepalm
I did that thing again, didn't I where I hear a phrase incorrectly and so write what I think I heard... I think I mean sea change.
SeeD change always makes sense because of the symbolic and literal meaning of the word- the seed of change, blah blah blah. I may revise that thing in my head to the actually correct way eventually.
T Streichsweetbaboo on May 17th, 2011 07:04 pm (UTC)
Re: facepalm
Oh! I know that thing. Well, even.
:)
ruthless compassion: martini handsaroraborealis on May 17th, 2011 07:12 pm (UTC)
Re: facepalm
There is even a name for this: "eggcorn"
TWPyouvebeenpixied on May 17th, 2011 06:36 pm (UTC)
First name often preceded by, "goddammit".
inuko: vector watzombie_dog on May 17th, 2011 07:05 pm (UTC)
I actually think that I vary on this.
unintentionally intimidatingcoraline on May 17th, 2011 07:15 pm (UTC)
second and first person both happen, as well as occasionally addressing my brain or body or motivation or whatever directly.

"second person" made me wonder if speakers of a language with second person familiar and formal use the former or the latter when talking to themselves, or if it varies :)
maebethmaebeth on May 17th, 2011 07:18 pm (UTC)
!!LIz! Stop it! now! What the F are you doing?!!!

and sometime more gently: "what do you think you are doing???"
phoenix: contemplativeamber_phoenix on May 17th, 2011 07:22 pm (UTC)
Specifically, former last name, not new partnered last name. I'm curious as to if this will change at some point.
Yagayagagriswold on May 17th, 2011 08:15 pm (UTC)
Sometimes a diminutive or other variant of my nickname, as in "Come on, little Spikey One, get out of bed!"

I'm pretty sure this makes me an enormous dork.
Chancemiss_chance on May 17th, 2011 08:22 pm (UTC)
2nd person singular (I mean, I know it's undifferentiated in English, but I'm clear which one a mean), and also 1st person plural. "We have got to work on ..."


Edited at 2011-05-17 08:23 pm (UTC)
the independent republic of nopantsistanfraterrisus on May 17th, 2011 10:50 pm (UTC)
Most often manifests itself in terms like "Come on <last name>, pull yourself together" or "don't fuck this up" or whatever.

Amusingly enough, I do the same thing on the derby track, but I usually use my derby nickname instead of my legal last name :)
Brother Claymore of Desirable Mindfulnesslifecollage on May 18th, 2011 01:12 am (UTC)
I'm with you. Frequently, it's my own voice doing a damned accurate impression of my high school gym coaches, particularly Coach Breit. "C'mon K---, get it in gear."
born from jets!!!catness on May 17th, 2011 11:39 pm (UTC)
kit, or "baby", like in "Come on baby, let's get it together." This is particularly odd and hilarious because I don't really like the term "baby" as applied to humans or SOs, but I often use it when talking to small furry creatures that have no speech.
Doe-eyed Bunnydoeeyedbunny on May 17th, 2011 11:53 pm (UTC)
"girl" with variants "silly girl" and "good girl"
Meaghansatyrgrl on May 18th, 2011 11:54 am (UTC)
When I address myself, it is almost always as "dude." As in "dude, you cannot wear that dress to the conference!" or "dude, seriously, you need to suck it up."
Katefenicedautun on May 18th, 2011 01:09 pm (UTC)
Actually, you're right, I totally do this too. We're right about the same age, aren't we? :)
Confluence of Kitchen and Kinkdietrich on May 20th, 2011 04:21 am (UTC)
I can attest to this. :)

I honestly don't know if I address myself this way at all. Not that I don't talk to myself out loud - I totally do, all the time. But I often feel like I'm addressing something outside of myself. E.g., "Come on, seriously?" or "I really don't want to be doing this right now!" Or "please, no, no, no!"

I wonder what it says about me.