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14 February 2012 @ 08:26 am
2012 confessional  
Tell me a secret! Tell me a not-secret! Whisper sweet somethings in my comment box. Express your maddest crush or deepest curiosity! Expound upon the fabulousness of your friends or lovers or would-be friends or lovers! Or people you know or want to know. Do it anonymously or with your name attached; anonymous commenting is on and IP logging is off.

You know you want to!

The link to read most recent comments first: http://aroraborealis.livejournal.com/1005067.html?format=light&view=flat#comments


I'll be moderating comments, with special attention to deleting comments that seem pointlessly mean-spirited or that are obviously attempts to make up creepy or mean rumors about people.

One of the things I deeply value about the confessional is the opportunity to say hard things, but it's important to me that they be productive, so please refrain from mean comments without substance.

If there's a comment that seems primarily to be about character assassination, I also encourage everyone not to engage with it. Rise above it and don't feed the trolls! I will try to delete that sort of thing in a timely fashion, but of course I won't be watching the comments all day every day.

If there's any comment about YOU that you'd like me to remove, please email me so I can do so.

Remember that all those anonymous voices are people, some of whom you know and like, and all of whom are people like you.
 
 
 
Concreteconcrete on February 14th, 2012 01:40 pm (UTC)
"this user has disabled anonymous posting."
Blue Gargantuabluegargantua on February 14th, 2012 01:45 pm (UTC)

She's tricky like that.

later
Tom
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(no subject) - catya on February 14th, 2012 03:39 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:41 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - aroraborealis on February 14th, 2012 02:20 pm (UTC) (Expand)
the expurgated version - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 05:57 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: the expurgated version - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 06:58 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Loritheloriest on February 14th, 2012 01:50 pm (UTC)
An open admission
minerva42... she is beautiful, fun, a great kisser, and she is someone I will happily call my friend for as long as she lets me. :)
unintentional baitredheadedmuse on February 14th, 2012 02:19 pm (UTC)
Re: An open admission
I just went to +1 this, and of course that's the wrong platform.

+ a lot, anyway. She's also a great neighbor.
Re: An open admission - jojotbird on February 14th, 2012 04:34 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - minerva42 on February 14th, 2012 09:05 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - minerva42 on February 14th, 2012 09:02 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 04:44 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 04:47 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - minerva42 on February 14th, 2012 09:15 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - beowabbit on February 15th, 2012 01:04 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - minerva42 on February 14th, 2012 09:14 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - perspicuity on February 19th, 2012 06:30 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 01:01 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - minerva42 on February 16th, 2012 03:14 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - drwex on February 16th, 2012 04:03 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - minerva42 on February 14th, 2012 09:00 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - theloriest on February 14th, 2012 11:27 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - moria923 on February 15th, 2012 05:07 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Adventures - theloriest on February 15th, 2012 05:08 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 01:17 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 03:56 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: An open admission - theloriest on February 15th, 2012 04:45 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Mizarchivist: Heartmizarchivist on February 14th, 2012 01:56 pm (UTC)
Thank you to my tribe for being you. I feel loved and supported every day. I wouldn't have been able to get through the past year without you.
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(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 01:56 am (UTC) (Expand)
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(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 16th, 2012 03:40 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 17th, 2012 11:33 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 04:57 pm (UTC) (Expand)
lack of support - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 05:10 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 05:13 pm (UTC) (Expand)
I've been in quite a few communities over the years - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 02:51 am (UTC) (Expand)
Beowabbitbeowabbit on February 14th, 2012 02:07 pm (UTC)
Thanks to my wonderful partner plumtreeblossom. I'm so sorry you're sick today, but I'm glad I can be here this morning and tonight to comfort you. And I hope you're all better soon!
plumtreeblossom: Me babyplumtreeblossom on February 14th, 2012 02:49 pm (UTC)
I guess I don't have to be anonymous to say you are the most wonderful partner in the whole world, and every minute of every day I am thankful to to have you in my heart and by my side. Love you forever in sickness and in health!
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 01:18 am (UTC) (Expand)
Oh yes. - (Anonymous) on February 18th, 2012 12:33 am (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 02:22 pm (UTC)
Anonymous commenting appears to be working now.
(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 02:32 pm (UTC)
I love meeting new people, and I wish it were easier to have the opportunity to meet AWESOME new people. I feel like my social circle makes it harder to do that than it should be.
Loritheloriest on February 14th, 2012 02:35 pm (UTC)
Agree
I've often felt the same way.
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 02:48 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 02:54 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Meetup.com - theloriest on February 14th, 2012 03:12 pm (UTC) (Expand)
meeting awesome people - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:04 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: meeting awesome people - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:08 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: meeting awesome people - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:19 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: meeting awesome people - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 08:01 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: meeting awesome people - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:10 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: meeting awesome people - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:16 pm (UTC) (Expand)
circle makes it difficult to meet more awesome people? - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 09:28 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 02:35 pm (UTC)
I wish my friends spent less time being defensively snarky. You're bringing me down, man!
(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 09:02 pm (UTC)
Right On!
Snarking is like being stumbling drunk: when doing it, one feels so very witty and clever, but to everyone else it's painful to watch.
Re: Right On! - rmd on February 14th, 2012 10:10 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Right On! - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 10:47 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 02:35 pm (UTC)
safer sex
I wish I didn't have to be responsible about safer sex practices. I just want to worry about if what they like to do/have done to them is the kind of things I like to have done to me/do. I've been good at being safe and I've stayed clean but I wish I didn't have to worry about this. I can't seem to make it exciting or at least don't let it get in the way of fun play. It just seems to break the mood for me. I know this isn't much of a confession but I'm hoping others have suggestions or comments on the subject they feel more comfortable saying here. Also, this is a fairly wide audience to ask advice from.


(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 02:46 pm (UTC)
Re: safer sex
OH HELL YES ME TOO.

I hate everything about safer sex. I hate the taste and feel of latex, I hate the way pausing to put on a condom or a glove breaks the flow of sex. I hate the clumsiness of dental dams so much I mostly don't bother.

And yet in the last year or so I've come to kind of fetishize it because I love the respect that comes from someone being careful and responsible about my body and theirs.

I struggle with this. I don't want to contribute to a culture that views sex as more dangerous than it really is, but I also do want to take care of my health and my lovers. I never know where the right balance between those things is; it feels like a constantly moving bar. What feels right to me intellectually is often different from what feels right to me on a gut level.

I guess I don't have much to offer as advice, just a wholehearted agreement that this stuff is complicated.
Re: safer sex - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 02:51 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 05:24 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 06:00 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - beowabbit on February 14th, 2012 10:50 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: safer sex - misskitty_79 on February 14th, 2012 05:34 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: safer sex - theloriest on February 14th, 2012 05:36 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: safer sex - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 02:23 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: safer sex - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 02:26 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: safer sex - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 08:23 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:04 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: safer sex - (Anonymous) on February 17th, 2012 02:14 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 17th, 2012 02:29 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - entrope on February 17th, 2012 02:31 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 17th, 2012 02:35 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 17th, 2012 02:44 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 17th, 2012 02:54 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 17th, 2012 02:55 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 17th, 2012 02:58 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 17th, 2012 03:39 am (UTC) (Expand)
oh, my - drwex on February 17th, 2012 03:47 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: oh, my - theloriest on February 17th, 2012 03:59 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 17th, 2012 01:20 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - dr_memory on February 17th, 2012 03:28 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: safer sex - drwex on February 17th, 2012 03:36 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: safer sex - (Anonymous) on February 17th, 2012 08:59 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: safer sex - (Anonymous) on February 17th, 2012 04:11 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 17th, 2012 12:47 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Ashrising_moon on February 14th, 2012 02:41 pm (UTC)
dreda is the hotness, and I am totally looking forward to our next date.

:D
evolution, and some other stuffjacflash on February 14th, 2012 03:30 pm (UTC)
That's not a "secret"! ;-)
(no subject) - rising_moon on February 14th, 2012 03:48 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - moominmolly on February 14th, 2012 04:07 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - dreda on February 14th, 2012 04:38 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 06:45 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - swashbucklr on February 14th, 2012 07:05 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 02:46 pm (UTC)
I just realized yesterday that I might be diagnosably depressed. I'm still figuring out whether it is affecting me enough to make seeing someone about it worthwhile.
(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 02:53 pm (UTC)
It's probably worth it - it doesn't hurt and it might help, right? :-)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:01 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:04 pm (UTC) (Expand)
My personal experience - drwex on February 14th, 2012 04:11 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Stigma - theloriest on February 14th, 2012 03:08 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Stigma - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 05:37 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - theloriest on February 14th, 2012 03:05 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - dreams_of_wings on February 14th, 2012 03:52 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - blk on February 14th, 2012 04:00 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - _sabriel_ on February 16th, 2012 03:56 am (UTC) (Expand)
worthwhile - sweetmmeblue on February 14th, 2012 09:22 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 07:18 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 02:50 pm (UTC)
It's not that I couldn't love you, it's that I already do. And I have no idea what to do with that.
(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 02:56 pm (UTC)
I've reached the part of adult life where the majority of my close friends are deciding to have babies. I am happy for their choices, I am selfishly saddened because it means I'm losing friends to go out and do non-baby stuff. But the non-parents in my social groups are getting younger, and I'm not, and sometimes I feel awkward trying to hang out with them.
(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 02:58 pm (UTC)
This. This. A thousand times this.
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:00 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 25th, 2012 12:49 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:01 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 16th, 2012 03:03 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:05 pm (UTC) (Expand)
people having babies - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:14 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:09 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 07:50 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - buxom_bey on February 14th, 2012 03:39 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - veek on February 14th, 2012 03:47 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Ditto that. - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:48 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 04:05 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Ditto that. - fanw on February 14th, 2012 05:26 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Ditto that. - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 07:46 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 07:57 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Friends Becoming Parents - plumtreeblossom on February 14th, 2012 04:14 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 05:36 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - veek on February 14th, 2012 08:33 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - moria923 on February 15th, 2012 05:28 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - veek on February 15th, 2012 05:31 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - moria923 on February 17th, 2012 03:29 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - goat on February 14th, 2012 06:25 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 01:23 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - twilighttremolo on February 15th, 2012 01:40 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - laurion on February 15th, 2012 09:19 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - klingonlandlady on February 23rd, 2012 09:44 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - _sabriel_ on February 16th, 2012 04:08 am (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:06 pm (UTC)
Subjects are great!
To everyone: we love it when you use the subject field!

Yours, everyone tracking this by email or using the most-recent-first layout
(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:11 pm (UTC)
Subjects are great. LJ no longer lets me give a comment a subject. How do you do it?
Use aroraborealis' layout - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:13 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Subject field in the flat layout - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 04:56 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:13 pm (UTC)
I used to be a very huggy person. I hugged everyone. It kind of occurred to me a couple years ago that some people might view hugging me as something of a social obligation, since everyone else seemed to be doing it. I also kind of grew a bit tired of the gauntlet of hugs that leaving an event seemed to require. I've pulled it back some and have edged toward quality of hugs and friendships over quantity. Nobody seems to mind (at least, nobody has mentioned the shift to me), and I feel a bit better about it.
(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:22 pm (UTC)
That is wonderful, thoughtful, and sweet. I hope I know you.
Hugs are a privilege not a right, dammit - (Anonymous) on February 23rd, 2012 11:51 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Hugs are a privilege not a right, dammit - (Anonymous) on February 24th, 2012 04:42 am (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:16 pm (UTC)
Secret Crush?
No one has confessed a seekrit crush yet. I'll show you mine if you'll me yours.

I know it's wrong, but I'm totally smitten with my kid's teacher, who none of you know. She's kind and beautiful and patient, and wears these killer knee-high boots and funky dresses all the time. *swoon*

(Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:20 pm (UTC)
Re: Secret Crush?
Oh, I bet I do know her. :-)
Re: Secret Crush? - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 03:21 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Secret Crush? - theloriest on February 14th, 2012 04:31 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Secret Crush? - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 03:53 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Secret Crush? - theloriest on February 15th, 2012 03:57 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Secret Crush? - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 04:00 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Secret Crush? - theloriest on February 15th, 2012 04:02 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 01:43 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 01:53 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - theloriest on February 15th, 2012 03:03 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Secret Crush? - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 04:00 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Secret Crush? - (Anonymous) on February 14th, 2012 04:19 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Secret Crush? - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 02:56 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Not on me - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 04:53 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Not on me - (Anonymous) on February 15th, 2012 10:23 pm (UTC) (Expand)