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15 May 2012 @ 04:16 pm
you were so much older then you're younger than that now  
In a conversation about the direction of change in quality of life with colleagues recently, one of my coworkers "complimented" me by saying that he thought I was in my 20s, after I referred to being in my 30s.

Now, I don't really think this is true. I don't even think I seemed like I was in my 20s through most of my 20s, much less now that I'm approaching the back half of my 30s. And I know he was trying to say something complimentary ... so I laughed it off and continued the conversation.

But, my actual reaction was more like, "WTF, dude, I've LEARNED these years. Don't take them away!" I guess probably there will be times in my life when I take it as a compliment to be taken as younger than I am (though mostly, I find the age thing pretty neutral), but it was interesting to me to feel so shortchanged by it in this case.
 
 
I'm feeling: chipperchipper
 
 
 
pumpkin_pi on May 16th, 2012 12:47 am (UTC)
I was just talking with a colleague this afternoon who was absolutely gobsmacked (yay, I get to use that word!!) that I was in my "early 40s". She said she would have sworn I was in my early 30s. I pointed out the grey patches in my beard and the grey hairs around my temples. Her response was essentially that I just seemed more relaxed, happy, in-shape, and focused on the "more important things in life" than the folks she knew who were in their 40s...and some people just grey early. She is in her mid-60s. I happily took the compliment and secretly thought about how it said as much about her perceptions about folks of a certain age as it did my actual looks and personality....and perhaps that in her eyes, I'm doing it right And I definitely need to remember to ask "why" the next time someone makes a similar comment about how old they think I am :) Her answer felt fantastic :D