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29 September 2012 @ 09:42 pm
Douglas Carson  
Today, my dad's oldest brother died, after many days of preparation. And, really, months and years of preparation. He was 68.

Uncle Doug was a little socially awkward, always quirky, reserved. He took pictures of food before the Internet, and even made at least one album of photographs of dinners he'd had. The last picture in the album is photo of a toilet bowl.

He was the oldest son of a difficult father, and suffered in the military academy where he and his brothers went for high school. He worked hard to live the life that was expected of him. He loved to golf. He has a daughter, my cousin Sarah, who is my age. He lived with Parkinson's for many years.

Doug was a really good person. He was incredibly amiable and regularly struck up friendly conversations with strangers. While sitting at his deathbed, his daughter told the story of him not arriving in Boston for her to meet him because he had started a conversation during his layover and decided to miss his flight in order to continue it.

For many years, he was my only family in Boston; most other Carsons live out west, and we bonded over that.

Doug greatly looked forward to retirement as the time in his life when he could kick back a enjoy, but before he could do that, he was diagnosed with Parkinson's and took an early disability retirement that looked so different from what he hoped or imagined.

I will miss him, an the world is a less wonderful place without him.

In his memory, please do somethig pleasurable or wonderful today that you had thought to put off to a later time.
I'm feeling: sadsad
Bzero: sadbzero on September 30th, 2012 05:02 am (UTC)
I'm sorry for the loss... he really does sound like an awesome guy.
Elizabeth Hunterlillibet on September 30th, 2012 05:04 am (UTC)
My condolences. He sounds like a wonderful guy--thank you for sharing him with us.
joev on September 30th, 2012 05:42 am (UTC)
I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for telling his story.
Co-conspirator of Squeemuffyjo on September 30th, 2012 06:12 am (UTC)
He sounds like the kind of person I absolutely would have enjoyed knowing. Thank you for sharing a glimpse of him. My condolences to you for your sadness and loss.
Bad Rabbitzzbottom on September 30th, 2012 11:52 am (UTC)
He sounds like quite a character. I'm sorry you'll be missing him.
Mouseketeer Stigmatatrom on September 30th, 2012 01:36 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss.
funner'n a sack a weaselsmoominmolly on September 30th, 2012 01:36 pm (UTC)
I will definitely do something.

Thank you for sharing the memories; I'm sorry for your loss, and your family's, and the world's.
Blue Gargantuabluegargantua on September 30th, 2012 02:14 pm (UTC)

My condolences. He sounds like a great relative.

Spiderbabearachne8x on September 30th, 2012 02:42 pm (UTC)
My condolences. I wish you and your family succor in this time of loss. I meditated last night finally, which I'd been putting off for weeks.
m.entrope on September 30th, 2012 02:56 pm (UTC)
I'm drawing unicorns with Simone today. I'll put on extra sparkles. <3
Stephghislaine on September 30th, 2012 03:27 pm (UTC)
I remember meeting him and remember him fondly. I'm sorry for your loss.

The boys and I are going to get some Halloween decorations today - something I've been saying I'll do for a few years and will finally do today.
Elizabeth Hunterlillibet on September 30th, 2012 04:25 pm (UTC)
This morning someone in our church lifted up your uncle's imminent passing as a concern for us to share--she had not realized he had passed last night. I had not known that he was a member of our church--I have not been there long and do not know many people, and I do not know if he had been able to attend in the time I've been there. But it gave me another sense of connection to him and the congregation will mourn his passing.
Yagayagagriswold on September 30th, 2012 04:30 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this memorial.
porpurina: fire handsbloodstones on September 30th, 2012 05:00 pm (UTC)
This is lovely - he sounds like a wonderful person. Thank you for sharing, and you and your family are in my thoughts.

Edited at 2012-09-30 05:01 pm (UTC)
traballenguastraballenguas on September 30th, 2012 05:49 pm (UTC)
So very sorry. Your idea is an excellent one, and a wonderful way to remember him.