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29 September 2012 @ 09:42 pm
Douglas Carson  
Today, my dad's oldest brother died, after many days of preparation. And, really, months and years of preparation. He was 68.

Uncle Doug was a little socially awkward, always quirky, reserved. He took pictures of food before the Internet, and even made at least one album of photographs of dinners he'd had. The last picture in the album is photo of a toilet bowl.

He was the oldest son of a difficult father, and suffered in the military academy where he and his brothers went for high school. He worked hard to live the life that was expected of him. He loved to golf. He has a daughter, my cousin Sarah, who is my age. He lived with Parkinson's for many years.

Doug was a really good person. He was incredibly amiable and regularly struck up friendly conversations with strangers. While sitting at his deathbed, his daughter told the story of him not arriving in Boston for her to meet him because he had started a conversation during his layover and decided to miss his flight in order to continue it.

For many years, he was my only family in Boston; most other Carsons live out west, and we bonded over that.

Doug greatly looked forward to retirement as the time in his life when he could kick back a enjoy, but before he could do that, he was diagnosed with Parkinson's and took an early disability retirement that looked so different from what he hoped or imagined.

I will miss him, an the world is a less wonderful place without him.

In his memory, please do somethig pleasurable or wonderful today that you had thought to put off to a later time.
I'm feeling: sadsad
Paulo: Glassesearthling177 on September 30th, 2012 07:38 pm (UTC)
I'm very sorry for your loss.
Kcatkcatalyst on September 30th, 2012 07:58 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss and for his loss, of the retirement he had planned and hoped for. You and your family are in our thoughts. *hugs*
wild, predictable abandon: me_laughing_bwcontessagrrl on September 30th, 2012 08:16 pm (UTC)
Thank you for this reminder. (I did!).

Love you, bunches.
goslinggosling on September 30th, 2012 09:01 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry.
bison need inbbbsg on October 1st, 2012 12:45 am (UTC)
i'm sorry for your loss.

i took the latter part of the day for cooking all the things, which was pleasurable and should have waited until more house set-up.
cheveux sable with earworm rampant: southparklcohen on October 1st, 2012 12:50 am (UTC)
i'm so sorry for your loss. may his memory be a blessing (but it sounds like it already is).
Spike: Grief - lossspike on October 1st, 2012 01:15 am (UTC)
I am sorry that you, and your family, and we all, lost him.
I will move up my plans to do wonderful things I've been putting off.
We all should.
phoenixamber_phoenix on October 1st, 2012 01:26 am (UTC)
So sad. So glad the world had him while it could.

Perhaps I'll take the kids to Tosci's tomorrow. I've been putting it off.

Thinking of you with love.
Chipceo on October 1st, 2012 01:39 am (UTC)
I'm terribly sorry. Thank you for telling his story.
Mizarchivist: Willow + Taramizarchivist on October 1st, 2012 01:51 am (UTC)
That was a beautiful tribute- thank you.
D. Fennelfennel on October 1st, 2012 03:26 am (UTC)
I'm sorry for your loss. My thoughts go out to you and your family.

If memory serves, I met Doug once at a brunch at your place, and was struck by his friendliness.
metagnatmetagnat on October 1st, 2012 01:29 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry.
The other side of Delirium: sunsettaura_g on October 1st, 2012 01:52 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry Hon.
My Mom also suffers from Parkinson's and my Uncle passed away with it a number of years ago. It is a truly terrible disease.

I hope that you and your family find some peace. And I will be sure to do something I've been putting off. :-)

My Dad passed away a year ago this thursday and he loved to say, "Life is too short for division". I've been trying to add that into my daily life more and more.
Trying to do one true beautiful thinggeekchick on October 1st, 2012 03:31 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry for your loss.
drwexdrwex on October 1st, 2012 04:32 pm (UTC)
May his memory always be a blessing
Thank you for sharing this. I'm sorry to hear of your loss.