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24 April 2013 @ 11:10 am
best mistakes  
Sometimes, we make mistakes that are just pure disasters, and sometimes, they're minor or boring or unremarkable. But sometimes, we make mistakes that turn out to be the twist in the plot that makes everything come together, or bring us to a new path or lesson that changes everything for the better. Do you have any "best mistakes" that brought you to where you are now?
I'm feeling: curiouscurious
Madame Blue aka Pygmentsweetmmeblue on April 24th, 2013 03:31 pm (UTC)
Today is my 14th anniversary
So I believe that the sequence of these led me to where I am now, married for 14 years, 2 great kids, my MSW and about to have the anniversary of 1 year of private practice.

See, I was married before. By my first anniversary I knew it was a mistake. Just before that first anniversary an ex got back in touch, said he was going to be in town, and did we want to see about rekindling things. He was no great shakes of a person to date. That was another big mistake but we "hooked up". A couple of weeks later he invited me to come to NY and visit. I took an entire week out of my life to visit this person I shouldn't have been seeing. While in NY he said "Oh by the way, I made plans to go spend Philcon with my other secondary..." This is after I flew 2000 miles to see him... He saw his mistake and made it possible for me to go to Philcon but that was the extent of it. That Friday night I met drwex.

I look back at my life and I see a series of these. People that, to an outsider, would seem an error but each step I learned, grew, and had wonderful things come out of. Maybe this is the story of my life.

Happy Anniversary sweetie.
veek on April 24th, 2013 03:34 pm (UTC)
I often think that my decision to get married was a huge mistake. But then, one could argue that the divorce experience enabled by it has brought me to where I am now. I certainly re-evaluated and re-prioritized everything in my life as a result of that, so... yay!
sabriel: mama_sabriel_ on April 24th, 2013 04:59 pm (UTC)
Here, too. I could have written those three sentences.
blkblk on April 25th, 2013 01:54 am (UTC)
I can empathize with that.
Ellen: cheerfulkeyne on April 24th, 2013 03:46 pm (UTC)
Being casual about birth control because I'd recently gotten off Depo-Provera and we figured it needed time to work itself out of my system. :)

That got us not only our firstborn, but also -- among other blessings -- a terrific natural childbirth class which changed my career path; a July98moms group which is still one of the best support groups ever; and an AP playgroup which began several friendships, led to our eventual cohousing location, and introduced me to my other life partner.
funner'n a sack a weaselsmoominmolly on April 24th, 2013 04:41 pm (UTC)
OMG so many.

One of my answers - you should ask me in person.

A mundane and smallish one: I think it was a mistake to work at ATG, but the life benefits of biking to Kendall Square every day for two years were so great.
phi: biketotient on April 24th, 2013 06:35 pm (UTC)
I made a very similar mistake, with similar results.
Bad Rabbitzzbottom on April 24th, 2013 06:19 pm (UTC)
My first job in Boston was a mistake, and the second one was a HUGE mistake, but they still got me to Boston, so it's all good in the end.
phoenixamber_phoenix on April 24th, 2013 06:22 pm (UTC)
My choice of university was, more or less, a complete fluke and, academically, I may have been much better off elsewhere. I wouldn't be who I am now, however, in so many ways.
m.entrope on April 24th, 2013 08:49 pm (UTC)
I moved to Texas, and Dallas specifically. But, I met Imre there.
unintentional baitredheadedmuse on April 25th, 2013 12:03 am (UTC)
deciding to finish my master's degree in Boston instead of running off to Switzerland with a guy I'd just met was, in retrospect, a mistake. but I pretty much love my life here, and who knows how Switzerland would have worked out?

other wild mistakes:
- moving to SF more or less on a whim, where I didn't last long as a transplant but met some of the best friends of my life.
- deciding to have a fling with a guy 13 years older than me, who turned out to be a great person to have a family with when we surprise did that.
- moving to the suburbs to have that surprise baby, about which I can really say nothing good except that it ultimately led to me living in the very home I now enjoy.
Deloresdebsquared on April 25th, 2013 04:57 am (UTC)
You could say my choice of graduate school was a mistake, given that it was such a poor fit. But, had I not chosen it, I would not know any of you dear people, or my very sweet husband.
David Policardpolicar on April 25th, 2013 12:52 pm (UTC)
I don't know if it counts as a "mistake", but there are many ways in which I frame my stroke as one of the best things that ever happened to me.

That said, I do understand that this is a fact about how I frame events, rather than a fact about the events themselves. I am not an objective recorder of reality.
veek on April 25th, 2013 04:23 pm (UTC)
So what about you, aroraborealis?
fanwfanw on April 28th, 2013 08:46 pm (UTC)
My penultimate guy was probably an unwise dating choice. We had very different relationship worldviews and I spent a year and a half trying to voice why I believed what I believed, why I wanted what I wanted in a relationship, and what good could come out of having independent lives and friends. All that work really buffed up my communication skills and has made keeping a long-distance relationship, getting through life in a rustbelt city, having a baby, uprooting our lives to move back, maintaining a marriage on <4 hrs consecutive sleep, and surviving constant financial crisis -- it's made my relationship the one thing I can ALWAYS count on.

And for that, I'm grateful!