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12 November 2014 @ 11:36 am
missing stairs, accountability  
Thinking a lot about missing stairs, loving and compassionate confrontations about bad behavior, the difference between intent and impact.

I know we all fuck up in big and small ways. I ask you, my community, to keep me honest if you feel able, when I fuck up big.

This isn't your job and my actions are my responsibility, but I promise to listen with an open heart and take seriously what you say.

I don't promise to agree with you, but I do promise to consider your words sincerely and seriously and probably talk about it with other people close to me for perspective, reality check, and deeper understanding.

Further, I commit to doing this for you, if I feel able inside of our relationship. I deeply believe that loving you means seeing you with as clear eyes as possible, loving you with your faults and failures as much as loving you with your brilliance and goodness. Love that is blind to faults is necessarily fragile, and that's not what I want for you or for me.
I'm feeling: sad, angry, loving
blkblk on November 12th, 2014 06:32 pm (UTC)
I love that you say and do these things.

I strive to have relationships where people can tell me I fuck up in ways that I can hear. I strive to not let my defenses slam close my ears before I listen to them. I strive to react authentically and with intention instead of kneejerking. I know I fuck up on this daily and have a long way to go, but people like you are great motivation to me, and I'm so glad to have you around.
MRFmrf_arch on November 13th, 2014 03:07 am (UTC)
You are awesome, and thank you for the reminder that this is a thing I need to work on too.
Mizarchivist: Fingers Crossedmizarchivist on November 13th, 2014 02:42 pm (UTC)
Sounds like you are having A Week. I hope you are able to continue to navigate through the rocks.