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20 February 2015 @ 09:04 am
Confessional 2015  
Tell me a secret! Tell me a not-secret! Whisper sweet somethings in my comment box. Express your maddest crush or deepest curiosity! Expound upon the fabulousness of your friends or lovers or would-be friends or lovers! Or people you know or want to know. Do it anonymously or with your name attached; anonymous commenting is on and IP logging is off.

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I'm feeling: curiouscurious
 
 
 
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 04:07 pm (UTC)
I know I'm an attractive person, but I'm still shocked every single time someone I find hot expresses interest in me. Actually startled, you know? As if that is not the nature of the world. Is this disguised self-denial or hatred, or something? I can tell everyone else that they are worthy and deserving of love until I'm blue in the face, but for some reason it's hard to swallow that myself even though I know it's true.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 10:06 pm (UTC)
I know so many beautiful, brilliant women who don't think they're beautiful, and it always amazed me that they can be so smart and so blind at the same time. But then a female artist who had zero interest in me romantically or sexually said that I was "kind of handsome." I wanted to categorically deny it, but then I remembered all those women, and made myself take that in and accept it. It still feels weird, and I know I'm not stunning, but it's...kind of neat to know that I'm "a little better than average" looking.
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 27th, 2015 07:33 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 04:17 pm (UTC)
I'm out of money. Looking around for stuff to sell.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 04:39 pm (UTC)
If you have time, rather than money, consider joining one (or more) of the many research studies being conducted around this area. Not all of them offer compensation for volunteers, but some certainly do.
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 05:01 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 07:19 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 09:03 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 09:05 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 05:05 pm (UTC)
I just hid the posts of an acquaintance on Facebook because I don't want to see his (often unimpressed) reviews of his meals at insanely expensive restaurants. I will probably never in my life be able to afford to eat at a restaurant like those. I'm a good person, and I work really hard, and it's not fair.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 11:36 pm (UTC)
I skip reviews like that even if the poster liked the restaurant. I will never be able to afford those A-list restaurants, but even if I could, I would never pay $200 or $300 for a damn dinner, as some of my acquaintances do on a fairly regular basis. The food doesn't even sound appealing to me, most times. I don't care for "whimsy" and "flight of fancy" in my food.

Take me to the North End for a $20 pasta dinner and I feel like I've eaten the best meal in the world.
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 05:11 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 05:11 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 05:03 am (UTC) (Expand)
Expensive restaurants - (Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 03:37 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 06:57 pm (UTC)
That Other Social Network Website
While I'm openly poly on LJ, I still haven't come out on Facebook since that's where my family, including inlaws, do most of their communication, along with the "normals".
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 09:43 pm (UTC)
Re: That Other Social Network Website
For me, it's because of work.
Re: That Other Social Network Website - (Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 12:37 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: That Other Social Network Website - (Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 01:46 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: That Other Social Network Website - (Anonymous) on February 25th, 2015 01:33 am (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 06:58 pm (UTC)
I miss being able to fuck three times an evening.
I must be getting old.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 10:03 pm (UTC)
I have gotten a physical illness in the past few years that has left me in chronic pain. Staying hard is much more difficult when one is distracted by pain.

Luckily, I've found partners who are understanding, and happy to start out on top until the adrenaline beats out the pain.
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 12:34 am (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 07:00 pm (UTC)
Poly Overload?
I have a few crushes on people, but I also have a spouse, a S.O., a child, and another person that I've recently had sex with (and would do it again). I wonder how full my plate is.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 07:26 pm (UTC)
Re: Poly Overload?
Only one way to find out!

(This is actually not true, and if you're feeling like your life is pleasantly full there's no need to crowd it by pursuing additional partners. But there's also something to be said for spilling the beans with an accompanying "but I'm pretty busy!" and aiming for an occasional one-night stand instead of a Relationship.)
Re: Poly Overload? - (Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 07:32 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 07:13 pm (UTC)
Error 503
I get this error about half the time when I'm looking at the flat view. Anyone having better luck and care to share secrets, or did we break LJ?
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 07:55 pm (UTC)
Re: Error 503
I've been having the same issue.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 07:16 pm (UTC)
gravitrue
I really like him, but I've never been anything more than friendly, because I didn't want him to give me time he could be using to fix all the things going wrong in his life. I wouldn't say I'm crushing on him, but I find him terribly interesting, and I wish I saw him more often. Kissing and other such activities would be fun too.

And I'm scared I'll lose whatever time I do spend with him by posting this.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 10:32 pm (UTC)
Re: gravitrue
He is most definitely a very special human being.
Re: gravitrue - (Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 03:10 am (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 08:39 pm (UTC)
prosicated
I don't just like her, or have a crush on her, or desire her physically-I love her.
(Anonymous) on February 23rd, 2015 01:35 pm (UTC)
Re: prosicated
There isn't a day that goes by without me thinking about how lucky I am to have her in my life.
Re: prosicated - inahandbasket on February 24th, 2015 02:40 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: prosicated - (Anonymous) on February 26th, 2015 03:02 am (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 08:41 pm (UTC)
weegoddess
I've known her for some time and have had a crush on her for pretty much that whole time.

Recently, I fell in love with her. She is awesome.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 10:33 pm (UTC)
Re: weegoddess
I've had a crush on her for years! And I'm a straight cis female. *Laughs*
Re: weegoddess - (Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 01:52 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: weegoddess - (Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 02:51 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: weegoddess - (Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 04:33 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 08:42 pm (UTC)
pegging!
This is pretty much my favorite sexual act. I'm on the receiving end of this, and I find it hot, hot, hot.

I've started coming from being pegged. This is kind of messy, but fun.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 09:54 pm (UTC)
Re: pegging!
Just recently started doing this (also on the receiving side), love it so much! Why did it take me so long to try?!?
Re: pegging! - (Anonymous) on March 4th, 2015 06:31 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: pegging! - (Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 09:55 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: pegging! - (Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 02:44 am (UTC) (Expand)
Re: pegging! - (Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 04:58 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: pegging! - (Anonymous) on February 23rd, 2015 02:31 am (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 09:04 pm (UTC)
Trust your gut
The older I get, the more I feel that my initial intuitions about people have been correct. That person I dated who at first seemed really messy and selfish actually is really messy and selfish. That person I admired and wanted to learn from actually is admirable and an excellent mentor. That friend I liked immediately when I met them all those years ago is now a rock in my life.

I wish I'd realized this sooner. And I don't know if anyone else feels this way, but I'm trying to live these days neither by the head nor the heart, but by the stomach.

(Which, if you know who I am, is curiously appropriate to my profession.)
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 09:25 pm (UTC)
Re: Trust your gut
Oh yeah. My gut is 100%.
Re: Trust your gut - (Anonymous) on February 24th, 2015 06:05 am (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 09:06 pm (UTC)
DIY attachment points
Recent vignette involving my cheerful use of a medical stapler:

"What are you DOING?"
"I needed attachment points, so I made some!"
(Anonymous) on February 23rd, 2015 12:36 am (UTC)
Re: DIY attachment points
Bloodsports intimidate me but this is hilarious and excellent.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 09:07 pm (UTC)
I really wish I could figure out what the perception of me is and why I never seem to find a date. I also wish I knew of where to go to meet single men. OkCupid has gotten me no where.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 09:52 pm (UTC)
What would your ideal single man be like? (And what sterling qualities can you bring to the table?)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 10:24 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 11:03 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 23rd, 2015 12:33 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 28th, 2015 04:34 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 28th, 2015 04:43 am (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 09:21 pm (UTC)
PRO TIPS, Y'ALL
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