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20 February 2015 @ 09:04 am
Confessional 2015  
Tell me a secret! Tell me a not-secret! Whisper sweet somethings in my comment box. Express your maddest crush or deepest curiosity! Expound upon the fabulousness of your friends or lovers or would-be friends or lovers! Or people you know or want to know. Do it anonymously or with your name attached; anonymous commenting is on and IP logging is off.

You know you want to!

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I'm feeling: curiouscurious
 
 
 
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 02:21 pm (UTC)
Re: I know I'm not a bad parent, but...
For what it's worth, I think that showing your kid(s) that you're human, and that humans lose it sometimes, especially when people around us are difficult, and that even though that happens, you still love them and hold yourself accountable for your mistakes is essential.

Or, in other words, on the basis of this, at least, you're not a bad parent.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 04:20 pm (UTC)
Re: I know I'm not a bad parent, but...
This, totally.

Before I had kids, I used to think the hard part of it would be getting the kids to take on the veneer of civilization. You know; using forks and not hands, saying please, taking turns, using the potty.

Turns out figuring out how to cope with your own and other people's emotions is way harder.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 04:43 pm (UTC)
Re: I know I'm not a bad parent, but...
(original poster)
Before I had kids, I couldn't imagine yelling. Hahahahaa.... Sigh. I've had it confirmed that of the household, I'm least yelly of the lot, so I will take that tenuous victory.

And to all following commenters: thank you very much. It's good to not feel so alone.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 04:51 pm (UTC)
Re: I know I'm not a bad parent, but...
Some of the most emotionally intimate moments I've had with my children were when I lost my temper and snapped at them, and then calmed down, apologized, explained what was going on in my day that pushed me over the edge, and listened to how they felt misunderstood from it. It is extremely difficult to be vulnerable to them, but it gets easier with practice, and afterwards I think we felt closer than if I had simply kept infinite calm.