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20 February 2015 @ 09:04 am
Confessional 2015  
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(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 03:15 pm (UTC)
Hazy Days of Winter
I usually have challenges with the Winter months. Anxiety, depression and S.A.D. I treat with Vitamin D, pulling out a sun lamp and daily affirmation. But this Winter - especially with the recent snow and the MBTA challenges, have been absolutely crushing to my spirit.

I feel like I am claustrophobic and the world is a crowded elevator and it's all I can do to get out the door to go to work in the morning.

I certainly have found no energy to work out - I'm an outdoor person and that isn't really happening. I can't seem to find the joy I once had in getting outside I once did.

How are you all finding coping strategies (or not) in dealing with this extraordinary Winter and do you too need help in pulling out of your own emotional morass?
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 04:00 pm (UTC)
Re: Hazy Days of Winter
It has been *awful*. I think we're all about ready to snap. Or maybe we already have. I've been coping by complaining a lot on social media, because it really does feel good to know that the other people around me are struggling, too. I've been helping others out as much as I can, because I am lucky to have a little more elasticity than others. I've been throwing myself into my artistic and creative endeavors, especially those that involve looking at and combining pretty bright colors. I've been trying to get out when the getting's good, which is rare.

But in the large sense, I've been draining my reservoirs of cope and patience and "pragmatic good humor", in the hope that they will refill come May or June or July.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 06:34 pm (UTC)
Re: Hazy Days of Winter
the worst part of this winter is that i look at my house and and just wince because come spring, i'm going to have to spend thousands of dollars on the damage that the winter caused. and there's no good way to keep from doing that every time there's a bad winter.the worst part of this winter is that i look at my house and and just wince because come spring, i'm going to have to spend thousands of dollars on the damage that the winter caused. and there's no good way to keep from doing that every time there's a bad winter.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 04:18 pm (UTC)
Re: Hazy Days of Winter
Oh gosh, this winter has been SO, SO HARD. I'm a cheerful winter cyclist who is still doggedly getting out there and I'm still barely staying above water, depression-wise.

All I can say is that exercise is absolutely critical for me. It's hard to want to do it, even harder than usual, but once I get it done my mood is lifted.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 04:30 pm (UTC)
Re: Hazy Days of Winter
I'm glad someone else asked how to deal with all this already. You've asked so much better than I would have, I'm ready to snap.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 04:54 pm (UTC)
Re: Hazy Days of Winter
This winter makes me more afraid than ever about climate change. I hope this isn't the new normal.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 09:01 pm (UTC)
Re: Hazy Days of Winter
Yeah, me too. It's scary.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 09:30 pm (UTC)
Re: Hazy Days of Winter
Thirded. I doubt we'll have the same precipitation year after year, but it seems all too likely that the jet stream will yank Arctic air over us as a matter of course hereafter. (And that California's drought will settle in for the long haul, etc.)
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 06:41 pm (UTC)
Re: Hazy Days of Winter
I'm an extrovert who lives alone. And this winter is making it extraordinarily difficult for me to get the social I need to maintain my sanity. My biggest saving grace is my job. I've found myself staying late a number of times just because there are people here and I'd rather be in the office and around people than home and alone.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 07:56 pm (UTC)
Re: Hazy Days of Winter
Oh fuck I don't know. Just reading your comment made me want to cry. I know the rain on Sunday will melt some of the snow, but I'm dreading it anyway because it's going to make what remains so much worse to deal with. I'd rather have it come down as more snow.

I have few solutions to offer. My recent exercise has all been shoveling and shoveling and more shoveling. I know it's irrational but I fear the snow will never end.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 08:28 pm (UTC)
Re: Hazy Days of Winter
My solution has been just doing all the selfish, self-care, feel-good stuff I can think of. I'm rewatching stuff I love. I'm spending a couple extra bucks for a hot coffee if I have to go outside. I'm canceling plans that would require me to brave the cold. And also, I'm skipping the gym, which makes me feel a little guilty but FUCK THAT GUILT, IT IS COLD AS BALLS.

This winter sucks. But it will end. It really, really will.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 09:13 pm (UTC)
Re: Hazy Days of Winter
the worst part for me so far was the 3 days i stayed at home doing nothing at all, babysitting the plumbers, while our heat was being fixed. that was… bad.

but in general it's been okay for me. i'm usually okay with winter for the most part but the past few years i've started to notice it wearing on me-- but this year i'm unrelatedly on a vitamin d supplement and i think it helps. also this year we paid a, for our budget, kind of ridiculous sum for an indoor climbing gym membership and, since it's already paid for, there's an incentive to find a way to go every single day because why not? which i'm certain is helping.

and of course there's all the recreational shoveling!
Coscos on February 24th, 2015 05:23 pm (UTC)

(Posted with my account because anons can't post videos. No need to hide my love of Dar Williams anyway :)

Edited at 2015-02-24 05:26 pm (UTC)
(Anonymous) on February 24th, 2015 05:41 pm (UTC)
Re: February
Thank you - I enjoy her very much as well. "February" is VERY relevant, timely, and comforting. Surprising, considering she released this the year of the biggest MA winter on record - (1995-1996)

Hard to believe it's over 20 years old.