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20 February 2015 @ 09:04 am
Confessional 2015  
Tell me a secret! Tell me a not-secret! Whisper sweet somethings in my comment box. Express your maddest crush or deepest curiosity! Expound upon the fabulousness of your friends or lovers or would-be friends or lovers! Or people you know or want to know. Do it anonymously or with your name attached; anonymous commenting is on and IP logging is off.

You know you want to!

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I'm feeling: curiouscurious
 
 
 
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 06:22 pm (UTC)
I agree with this comment. It is 100% a-ok for someone to pursue things with a partner who I find difficult or unpleasant or even simply unrewarding to spend time with, and if they're happy, I'm happy for them! But that can't obligate me to spend my limited social time on/with people who aren't to my liking (and I frankly assume that no one would want me to do so).
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 11:39 pm (UTC)
Yep. I've definitely reduced my involvement with friends because of their difficult SOs.

I do wonder if they know, but experience has taught me that letting them know doesn't really change anything.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 01:09 am (UTC)
Yah, I don't think telling them can do any good, unless the reasons you don't like the SO are that the SO is potentially harmful, but that's a different conversation.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 04:10 pm (UTC)
Can I just say that there is a surprising amount of SO-hate this year and suddenly I'm worried?
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 11:39 pm (UTC)
Yeah, me too.

(Captcha: "how are you")
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 06:38 pm (UTC)
that's not true for everyone. consider telling them if you think it is at all useful, even if it wouldn't change everything.
(Anonymous) on February 21st, 2015 10:54 pm (UTC)
I had one friend I talked about it with, at her instigation, because she was concerned about its effect on her social life. We agreed that I'd sometimes do things with both of them, but also sometimes just with her.

Then she proceeded to invite him to everything I invited her to, without further discussion. So that didn't work.