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20 February 2015 @ 09:04 am
Confessional 2015  
Tell me a secret! Tell me a not-secret! Whisper sweet somethings in my comment box. Express your maddest crush or deepest curiosity! Expound upon the fabulousness of your friends or lovers or would-be friends or lovers! Or people you know or want to know. Do it anonymously or with your name attached; anonymous commenting is on and IP logging is off.

You know you want to!

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I'm feeling: curiouscurious
 
 
 
(Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 06:06 pm (UTC)
Re: How I want you
Unlike the other commenters, I think this is rather sweet. I think it echoes what a lot of people are thinking about their loves and are too afraid to say anything about publicly for fear of reactions like the above. I hope you find that special someone, and that you and them are everything you hoped for. And I hope your life together is long and happy.
(Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 06:23 pm (UTC)
Re: How I want you
Agreed. What made it seem sweet and kind of lonely rather than icky was, to me, the poster's obvious respect for boundaries. Most of us have felt intense longing at one time or another for something or someone we couldn't have... It's certainly not a crime.

(and I'm a cis woman)
(Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 08:06 pm (UTC)
Re: How I want you
I also read it as sweet and lonely, because I too saw the clear respect for boundaries in it. This is someone voicing a longing in a context that doesn't impose that longing on the person in the slightest. And I know very few people who haven't felt that kind of longing at sometime or another.

(Also a cis woman)
(Anonymous) on February 22nd, 2015 08:35 pm (UTC)
Re: How I want you
I'll go further and say that I think confessions like this reduce the net creep factor in the universe because it reinforces a concept stalker, rapists and other bad guys seem to often forget: that it is possible to have strong feelings and NOT ACT ON THEM. This post helps counter that famous excuse: "I just couldn't help myself". To which my answer is always: bullshit. Of course you could have. You chose not to. But this guy, whoever he is, he knows his strong feelings don't justify anything at all; that he alone is 100% responsible for his actions and their impact on others, no matter how much he wants something he can't have.

In the real world we rarely get to see examples of people NOT acting on their desires, because non action is inherently invisible. So I find it reassuring and anti-creepy to get a rare view into someone doing what more people should: keeping their feelings to themselves.

So, hat tip to you, OP.
(Anonymous) on February 23rd, 2015 03:31 am (UTC)
Re: How I want you
OP poster here.
Thank you. Thank you all who didn't assume I was a monster.
I respect the person I wrote about in every way, including "to leave alone."
I was horrified when I found out what other people thought and felt.
Thank you for reassuring me that that isn't universal.
(Anonymous) on February 23rd, 2015 01:33 pm (UTC)
Re: How I want you
+1
(Anonymous) on February 23rd, 2015 04:54 pm (UTC)
Re: How I want you
I think it is wonderful that you have the courage to want with such intensity. Fantasies are free and don't hurt anyone.

I don't find this creepy at all. I find it lovely.
(Anonymous) on February 25th, 2015 08:47 pm (UTC)
Re: How I want you
I also thought this was quite sweet. Please, OP, don't get too discouraged. You CAN please some of the people, some of the time (and.. you know the rest).