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20 February 2015 @ 09:04 am
Confessional 2015  
Tell me a secret! Tell me a not-secret! Whisper sweet somethings in my comment box. Express your maddest crush or deepest curiosity! Expound upon the fabulousness of your friends or lovers or would-be friends or lovers! Or people you know or want to know. Do it anonymously or with your name attached; anonymous commenting is on and IP logging is off.

You know you want to!

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ETA: IP logging is back on!
 
 
I'm feeling: curiouscurious
 
 
 
(Anonymous) on February 23rd, 2015 06:07 pm (UTC)
Re: okcupid exclusions and bonuses
It's fine for you to know you're attracted to women in a range that's mostly your age or younger.

It's fine for the other commenter, of whatever gender and preferences, to find that a turn-off personally.

Maybe your response isn't really to that commenter and their personal preference, but to the assumption you feel in the air around you that their preference is an honorable one and yours is sleazy. Note that the commenter you responded to didn't actually say that.

If so, you're right to feel that thing in the air, it is there. We could also go deeper into some good reasons why it's there, and also some innocent people feeling disapproved of for their personal taste, and... well, there are plenty more levels that conversation could dive into.