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20 February 2015 @ 09:04 am
Confessional 2015  
Tell me a secret! Tell me a not-secret! Whisper sweet somethings in my comment box. Express your maddest crush or deepest curiosity! Expound upon the fabulousness of your friends or lovers or would-be friends or lovers! Or people you know or want to know. Do it anonymously or with your name attached; anonymous commenting is on and IP logging is off.

You know you want to!

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I'm feeling: curiouscurious
(Anonymous) on February 24th, 2015 02:10 pm (UTC)
Re: I know I'm not a bad parent, but...
Gentle parent here, I should also mention that sometimes I do lose my cool. Sometimes I do yell. I don't think that feeling ashamed of having done this is going to help anyone, so I try not to. It's better to examine what happened and how to do better next time, as well as talking about what happened with the child and apologizing if I was out of line, as a commenter above suggested.

Remember, everyone gets mad sometimes, and it's important to model to our kids that all emotions are ok! It's how we deal with the situation afterwards that counts.

(Anonymous) on February 25th, 2015 05:46 pm (UTC)
Re: I know I'm not a bad parent, but...
(original poster again)
That is SO true, about needing to demonstrate the full range of emotions. Thanks. That helps, too.

I would love to have other suggestions on what besides redirect works, particularly for pre-schoolers. And perhaps can be done out of this forum, if we could get out of the anon loop.
(Anonymous) on February 27th, 2015 06:20 pm (UTC)
Re: I know I'm not a bad parent, but...
I don't think I can explain anything better than the experts do. Here are my favorites:


I use a blend of all 3 of these based on what works for me and my family.

One big thing I have discovered about gentle parenting that has made a big difference: Being a gentle parent does not mean I don't hold a firm boundary, even if doing so leads to extreme emotions in child, just that I hold that boundary compassionately.