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20 February 2015 @ 09:04 am
Confessional 2015  
Tell me a secret! Tell me a not-secret! Whisper sweet somethings in my comment box. Express your maddest crush or deepest curiosity! Expound upon the fabulousness of your friends or lovers or would-be friends or lovers! Or people you know or want to know. Do it anonymously or with your name attached; anonymous commenting is on and IP logging is off.

You know you want to!

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I'm feeling: curiouscurious
 
 
 
(Anonymous) on February 24th, 2015 04:10 pm (UTC)
Re: okcupid exclusions and bonuses
This is actually why I increasingly think that OkCupid and other profile-based dating sites aren't right for me. I can't tell from a profile if someone is going to "click" with me, which is far more ephemeral than all of my personal guidelines.
(Anonymous) on February 24th, 2015 04:44 pm (UTC)
Re: okcupid exclusions and bonuses
Profile-based dating sucks...I just haven't found an approach that works better. My age, my interests, my lifestyle result in me meeting people who just aren't in a partner-seeking place in life (mostly family types). Add to that that I'm really bad at making connections with people "in the wild"; having some kind of structured, purposeful interaction really helps me overcome my shyness.

And to be really honest, I'm not attracted to most people nor am I attractive to most people. So the odds of stumbling on someone randomly resulting in a mutual attraction is really low.

So, imperfect though it is, I return again to OKCupid and the like.
(Anonymous) on February 25th, 2015 02:33 am (UTC)
Re: okcupid exclusions and bonuses
Yes, exactly. I have met ever so many perfectly pleasant, completely non-clicky people through OKC. (And one guy I *really* liked, so it can happen. But empirically speaking, the chances aren't that good.) So far, though, there hasn't been any other route with a better success rate.