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20 February 2015 @ 09:04 am
Confessional 2015  
Tell me a secret! Tell me a not-secret! Whisper sweet somethings in my comment box. Express your maddest crush or deepest curiosity! Expound upon the fabulousness of your friends or lovers or would-be friends or lovers! Or people you know or want to know. Do it anonymously or with your name attached; anonymous commenting is on and IP logging is off.

You know you want to!

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I'm feeling: curiouscurious
Mizarchivist: Dorkmizarchivist on February 20th, 2015 02:09 pm (UTC)
Have fun, kids. Play nice.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 02:14 pm (UTC)
aroraborealis is the bomb!
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 02:14 pm (UTC)
I know I'm not a bad parent, but...
3 year olds are hard. When they don't listen. And laugh at your mounting frustration and anger, even when you are trying SO HARD to be the adult, and use your words and "I Feel" statements, to start this kid off on the right track. And then you end up literally screaming in their face. And making them cry. And feeling like a monster. And then apologizing...

I know it won't always be like this. That I'm only human. That I have 2 books waiting for me at the library reserve desk that might help. And set up at the school system for ongoing screening to see if there really is a disconnect here, or this kid is just 3 and we have to wait it out and try hard to not yell.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 02:21 pm (UTC)
Re: I know I'm not a bad parent, but...
For what it's worth, I think that showing your kid(s) that you're human, and that humans lose it sometimes, especially when people around us are difficult, and that even though that happens, you still love them and hold yourself accountable for your mistakes is essential.

Or, in other words, on the basis of this, at least, you're not a bad parent.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 02:46 pm (UTC)
I used to have crushes all the time, and at some point in recent years, I just ... stopped having them. I miss it! I liked the shiny zing of seeing someone I had a crush on. I liked flirting with someone with a little extra pizzazz. I liked the feeling of potential out in the world, like there was always another layer possible if the connection was right.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 03:03 pm (UTC)
Re: I know I'm not a bad parent, but...
Right. there. with. you.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 03:07 pm (UTC)
Test Thread
For all us Luddites who aren't sure if their posting anonymously or not ...
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 03:11 pm (UTC)
I really need a job with true flex time
I'm worn out from the amount of depression that my chronic health issues cause because of my fear of losing my job. When I'm too exhausted or unwell to be in the office or to work at all, the worst part is the second arrow of feeling like I've let down my company, my coworkers, my partner and my family. Not only am I not working, but I am either using vacation days or taking time unpaid, so I can contribute less to our household.

I'm the kind of person who will make up the time, who will do the work when I can. I have a strong work ethic, and fierce loyalty to the plaes I work. Why did the place that was accommodating me have to decide after 4 years that they can't anymore? Where can I find a safe haven to work in where I won't have to go through this again?

(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 03:15 pm (UTC)
Hazy Days of Winter
I usually have challenges with the Winter months. Anxiety, depression and S.A.D. I treat with Vitamin D, pulling out a sun lamp and daily affirmation. But this Winter - especially with the recent snow and the MBTA challenges, have been absolutely crushing to my spirit.

I feel like I am claustrophobic and the world is a crowded elevator and it's all I can do to get out the door to go to work in the morning.

I certainly have found no energy to work out - I'm an outdoor person and that isn't really happening. I can't seem to find the joy I once had in getting outside I once did.

How are you all finding coping strategies (or not) in dealing with this extraordinary Winter and do you too need help in pulling out of your own emotional morass?
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 03:24 pm (UTC)

Reading Secret on my phone can be fun, but it's no substitute.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 03:27 pm (UTC)
Secret is full of meanies if I venture outside my friends and fof circles. Bah on them. Here is much nicer thanks to our lovely host!
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 03:31 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I was excited about Secret at first, but it quickly devolved into meanness and/or vapid stupidity. Or both. I think there's something special about the limited time nature of the confessional.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 03:38 pm (UTC)
Re: aroraborealis
I like how she delights in making things happen.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 03:39 pm (UTC)
can't opt out from loneliness
I always ask for a pat-down at the the airport. It's about privacy and protest, but also so that someone will touch me.
(Anonymous) on February 20th, 2015 03:43 pm (UTC)
Re: can't opt out from loneliness
I do it mainly out of protest, but also because it's the one part of the stupid fucking TSA bullshit that contains even an ounce of humanity. The pat-down is almost always done by a someone who is friendly and happy to chat for the 90 seconds the process takes.