My obvious role-models are my parents, whose lives look pretty different from mine, and also look different from their parents' lives; it's good to know, from the outset, that you can do something different and have it still be good.
I think the main driving force in how I live my life, and what my general life-goals are, are very self-formed, stemming out of a childhood where I didn't have much in the way of limitations put on me from an early age. These days, I do like to borrow a page from a book here and there, when someone in my life seems to be exploring an interesting or challenging or otherwise appealing sphere: darthsunshine and wolfkitn, for example. And in watching everyone in my life, I can learn lessons, and think about what things I want and what I don't, that are like and unlike the things about my friends and acquaintances.
I have a constantly shifting image of who and how I want to be, and it's an interesting process to try to tease out the threads to figure out where it all comes from.