August 1st, 2003


The concept of "no"

If I have a friend who has a hard time saying "no" to requests or favors, what is my responsibility in not pressuring per to say "yes" and giving per room to say "no"? While I feel that it's important for each person to speak clearly in terms of what's realistic for per to do from day to day, and part of that is being able to say no when the occassion arises, there's also, I think, an aspect of it that requires ME to recognize when someone has a hard time saying no, and not take advantage of that.

When someone says no to a favor, is it reasonable to try again with a similar or related favor that might work better for them? How many iterations of this is "fair"? Especially if it's a person who has a hard time saying no?

If "no means NO" applies in consenting to sex, why do so many people not seem to apply it to day-to-day life?
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