February 16th, 2004



My maternal grandmother has been in slow decline for some time. Recently, she went into an assisted living home, run by a married couple out of their home. Among the rules for her being there are that grandma can't have visitors for more than an hour a day. Recently, they sent my mom this letter:

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So, basically, they seem to have the long-range view, which is great for a 70 year old who may have another 10 or 20 years ahead of her, but for someone who may well not live for the next 30-90 days, much less beyond that, seems totally inappropriate to me. They've been very unfriendly to grandma's long-term psychiatric nurse, Jennifer, who's been incredibly helpful in the recent past, and they're unwilling to deal with a check from a money market account because it, apparently, can't be cashed outright but first has to be deposited in a bank account (?). Grandma says that when people are around, the hospice guy is nice and attentive, but when other people aren't there, he's far less attentive and can even be rough.

I told mom that I thought looking for a different hospice was totally reasonable, but now I'm feeling extremely grumpy at the hospice people for being, as I see it, really unreasonable if not downright shady.

road trip: itinerary

In March, razil and I are planning a road trip from Portland, ME to Houston, TX. If you are on the way and want us to consider stopping near you for a meal or an overnight, let me know (no guarantees, naturally). Otherwise, our draft itinerary looks like this:

15th in maine
16th to niagara
17th to ann arbor
18th to chicago
19th to kansas city
20th to tulsa
21st to houston