June 27th, 2006


(still) fat and (still) thinking about it

I was very interested in the responses to the article I linked to last week by a man who is attracted to fat women. Some folks found it fetishizing, which is certainly something that happens, and I'll admit that it's something that I've always found a little disturbing, or, in some cases, a lot disturbing. I suppose that, for me, any time someone's physical attributes gain such (pardon me) mythic proportions in attraction, above and beyond what seems to me the important things, like personality, how someone inhabits his or her body, how we connect on levels other than the visual, it's hard for me to wrap my head around. Obviously, in order to be attracted to someone, the visual is an important part, but for me, the visual encompasses much more than simply someone's size, while the fat fetishist sees that to exclusion of everything else.

So, on the one hand, you have the fat fetishizers, and on the other hand, you have people who have some bizarre idea that fat people are somehow different from thin people. For example, this recent post demonstrates a classic instance of making fun of a fat woman for making schizophrenic food choices: she orders 2 dozen donuts, a couple of savory breakfast items, and then asks for Equal in her coffee. My lord, why bother with the chemical sweetener when you're going to be consuming thousands of calories in breakfast foods?
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