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ruthless compassion
15 June 2010 @ 10:00 am
What is it about being called on being a jerk makes people pull additional jerkiness?

The other day, a friend and I were walking in downtown Boston. About to cross the street, we were nearly run down by a guy tearing through a red light. My friend shouted, "Hey!" and the guy flipped her off. About a month ago, I was driving, and a person cut me off to turn left in front of me, and flipped me off while doing so.

Does doing something MORE assholish make them feel righteous? Wtf!

But, then, I can see this in myself, too, in that urge, when someone says, "Hey, you hurt my feelings," to respond with, "Dude, get over yourself. What do you want from me?"

I guess it's like saying, "I'm not as good as you think I am, and I feel shitty when I fail you, so stop asking me to be better." Framed that way, it seems not only outrageous but kind of sad.

Does this happen to you? How do you deal with it, either from the giving or the receiving side?
 
 
I'm feeling: sadsad