March 24th, 2011


money and being a grown up

I'm always happier for (day-to-day) money matters between friends to be very hand-wavey -- I pay more this week, and you pay more next week, and it all comes out in the wash over months or years of friendship, so that we can come together and share food and experiences without making money be a hurdle or a test or a competition.

So, it's not surprising that one of my favorite things about being a grown up is going out to dinner with a group of friends and instead of, at the end of the meal, everyone scrimping down to the last penny and figuring the measliest tip they feel they can get away with, a general sense of generosity, both in terms of what "my share" was for each person, and a real understanding that the tip is part of the meal, and that servers are people who work for a living, too, and etc, etc.

I really like it that instead of getting to the end of the meal and everyone's pitched in and the person counting has to say, "Hey, guys, we're a few dollars short ...", now that person says, "Gosh, we sure are leaving a huge tip." And no one has to point to Joe over there and be like, "Dude, you ordered way more than everyone else and you didn't include a reasonable tip in what you put in," or whatever.

What's a little thing that you like about being a grown up?