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07 May 2009 @ 09:17 am

How old were you the first time you first caught sight of yourself and thought, "Wow, I'm hot!"

This has never happened to me.
In my teens

What were the circumstances/context? Was it a surprise?
I'm feeling: curiouscurious
Renata Piper: kiss my lily-white behindlyonesse on May 7th, 2009 01:22 pm (UTC)
i caught a glimpse of my butt in a three-way mirror in a friend's dorm room. mind, the reaction was limited to just "my, i have a great ass!" and i'm not sure i've ever felt overall all that hot. and yes, it was a *total* surprise. i tried to share the experience with my friend, who was a bit lacking in empathy....
blkblk on May 7th, 2009 01:27 pm (UTC)
I'm actually really not sure. I've never really found myself specifically UNattractive, but all the things I remember admiring about myself when I was younger were external things - wearing my hair a certain way, a dress that looked extra nice, jeans that were just the right type, etc.

I don't have specific memories of finding ME attractive until somewhen after I was married, between babies. I'm pretty sure it was influenced strongly by realizing that other people found me attractive. So my own attraction didn't surprise me, but the fact that I got hit on so much when I went to college totally did.
ruthless compassion: happyaroraborealis on May 7th, 2009 01:32 pm (UTC)
Similarly, throughout my teens, I could see that this or that looked good on me, or my hair looked nice, or whatever, but it was always sort of relative. I was, therefore, shocked the first time I glanced at myself in a mirror and at first didn't recognize myself, and in my place, there was this actually gorgeous person looking out at me! It was startling and disconcerting (in a good way, obviously).

Of course, it wasn't like throwing a switch, but over time, I've had more of those experiences, which is pretty interesting and fun. Having other people find me attractive helps, but is different. Having friends who think I'm attractive take pictures of me is much more like the original experience, actually.
blk: hottieblk on May 7th, 2009 01:44 pm (UTC)
Having friends who think I'm attractive take pictures of me is much more like the original experience, actually.

Yes, that it is!

Having other people find me attractive was initially what prompted me to actually LOOK at me and consider me again, after which my self-attraction started to develop. Now it's like my body is this old comfortable friend which I just can't help but like. :)
B.K. DeLongbkdelong on May 7th, 2009 01:27 pm (UTC)
I think it was more of a body image acceptance thing and the fact that I had, indeed, lost about 60lbs in the past 9mo. I was also being more social and realizing that it was popular to dynamic and interesting off the keyboard as to the extend people saw me as on...

Then again, maybe I just dig my body type right now.
Michael Grasso: here come the story of the hurricanemgrasso on May 7th, 2009 01:29 pm (UTC)
Caveats: it was around the time of the photo in my icon was taken: 1999 or thereabouts. And it was only my face and hair. I have never in my life believed my body was hot.
catcatya on May 7th, 2009 01:35 pm (UTC)
I put teens, but it was definitely a rare flash at that point rather than a "believed" thing...
cinnabarinecinnabarine on May 7th, 2009 04:58 pm (UTC)

At some point in my teens, I caught a glimpse of myself reflected off a window and it was under just the right sort of low lighting. I didn't recognize me for a second and had a brief flash of "ooh!" Then I just went right back to thinking I'm just a me.
maebethmaebeth on May 7th, 2009 01:48 pm (UTC)
About two years ago I found pictures of myself when I was in college. I looked at those pictures and was completely STUNNED to discover that I was hot in college.

Like many of the comments, I've never really believed I was unattractive, but mostly complimented myself for a single detail here, or there. (I always believed I had nice hair.)

Sometime in my late 30s I realized that I was like my mom and that I was going to "age well". But that isn't exactly calling oneself "hot".

So I've never said "I'm hot now".
bison need inbbbsg on May 7th, 2009 02:09 pm (UTC)
i first thought it in my teens, about 15-16. i had switched schools and was going back to visit the old one and i was very carefully choosing my outfit. then i looked in the mirror and realized i was hot regardless. but, it's a here and there thing; i don't always think it when i look in the mirror.
ruthless compassion: martini handsaroraborealis on May 7th, 2009 02:15 pm (UTC)
Sure, but knowing it's there ever kind of changes things a lot of the rest of the time. Or, it has for me, anyway. I still have times when I look in the mirror and think I look utterly crappy, and knowing I've ever thought I looked good seems distant and unattainable, of course, but the days when I think I merely look "eh" are improved by this other experience of myself.
bison need inbbbsg on May 7th, 2009 02:31 pm (UTC)
oh, absolutely! it just felt wrong to give the impression that i'm always walking around going "damn, i'm hot!"
Mizarchivist: Huhmizarchivist on May 7th, 2009 02:14 pm (UTC)
Sometime around 15-16, I got really dressed up to go to the opera. I think I had that moment then- I certainly look back at those pictures and think so now.

I usually feel much more hot these days than I did 10-12 years ago. I think? I'm more hazy on this than I had thought.
Blinkerslinkr on May 7th, 2009 02:24 pm (UTC)
23. I got a buzz cut, saw my reflection in a subway window and was shocked.
evolution, and some other stuffjacflash on May 7th, 2009 02:30 pm (UTC)
It was a few years ago, just a glance of my sunburnt face in the mirror and a mental, "hey, I'm aging awfully well, now that I think about it." That's probably the closest I've come to seeing myself and thinking that I was "hot".

On some level I still think my body needs a lot of work before it could be considered attractive, but I have thought that since at least age 10 or so and I'll probably have to get to a Navy SEAL-level of fitness before I stand a chance of losing that notion. (And lately I've been taking some steps toward getting into something resembling that kind of shape, fully aware that at age 42 it's going to take an awfully long time for me to get there. But every day a step, and we'll see.)

But I was well into my 30s before I was actually able to internalize the idea that the kind of women I'm attracted to often find me attractive, and I still struggle with it, largely because of body-image stuff. I dated a very athletic woman for a while last year and there were times when I'd be like "how is it possible that you're attracted to me?", which... wasn't helpful.
David Policardpolicar on May 7th, 2009 02:50 pm (UTC)
It's always something of a surprise to contemplate that there exist people who find me physically attractive. I mean, I know it's true, but that knowledge exists in tension with my overall model of myself and the world. I don't think I've ever experienced myself that way.
funner'n a sack a weasels: burning skirtmoominmolly on May 7th, 2009 02:55 pm (UTC)
I have always liked the shape of my eyes and face, so I think that even when I was really awkward and didn't like myself much I thought I was *pretty*. I think the first time I thought I might be hot, though, was after a boy I'd literally had my eyes on from afar without knowing him (I always saw him walking to high school #2 in my town as I took the bus to high school #1) went far, far out of his way to be on kissing terms with me as soon as we were introduced. Then, after we kissed, I saw myself in the mirror and thought, --oh, okay, I get it. Nice.
ext_90356 on May 7th, 2009 03:44 pm (UTC)
younger than 13. yes, hot, rather than cute, pretty, or beautiful. It wasn't a surprise. I was fairly convinced of my hotness at that age.
It happened less and less often as I got into my teens.
Katefenicedautun on May 7th, 2009 04:08 pm (UTC)
Now I'm reading the comments, I may have made the wrong answer. Starting around 18 or so, I began to be able to look in the mirror and believe I was attractive, but I've never believed I was hot (which to me has much more sexual connotations).
Crossletcrosslet on May 7th, 2009 10:15 pm (UTC)
I think I have a similar experience with you. In my late 20's I think I realize that I wasn't unattractive but not hot or sexy.

Of course, an ex telling me that probably reenforced that.