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03 February 2010 @ 10:29 am
2010 confessional  
Normally, I do this a little closer to Valentine's Day, but a variety of factors have come together to make today the day for this year's confessional, yay! Feel free to point people to this post if you're so inclined. You know the drill:

Tell me a secret! Tell me a not-secret! Whisper sweet somethings in my comment box. Express your maddest crush or deepest curiosity! Expound upon the fabulousness of your friends or lovers or would-be friends or lovers! Or people you know or want to know. Do it anonymously or with your name attached; anonymous commenting is on and IP logging is off.

You know you wanna.

(Play nice!)

[ETA (Saturday at 5:30pm): I'm going to start deleting new comments that are mean or critical without adding content. I probably won't bother to go back and do the same on old threads, but no guarantees.

Constructive criticism is fair game, but don't use anonymity to let your inner asshole off the leash, ok?]

(For historical reference, links to: special edition 2009 confessional, 2009 confessional, 2008 confessional, 2007 confessional)
 
 
I'm feeling: curiouscurious
 
 
 
(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 03:31 pm (UTC)
I have a deep and burbling crush on a guy who lives on the wrong side of the country from me. I think he might have one on me. But we're both way to shy, and see each other way too little, to do anything about it. I like having crushes, but this is starting to feel a little high school!
(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 03:52 pm (UTC)
i may be on the opposite side of this kind of situation
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 04:37 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Yeah, I can relate, from the other side . . . - gatopreto on February 3rd, 2010 04:44 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Yeah, I can relate, from the other side . . . - (Anonymous) on February 5th, 2010 02:10 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Yeah, I can relate, from the other side . . . - gatopreto on February 6th, 2010 12:15 am (UTC) (Expand)
(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 03:34 pm (UTC)
I watched a Nova Science Now episode that included a piece on reCAPTCHA and how it's slowly digitalizing millions of books and the backlog of the New York Times. I just want to fill out the anonymous reCAPTCHA thingy.
(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 03:38 pm (UTC)
I am deeply afraid that one day (tomorrow, a month from now, ten years from now) I will wake up and realize that what I thought was love was infatuation -- spun sugar.
born from jets!!!catness on February 3rd, 2010 08:35 pm (UTC)
Hey, I found that out in only 2.5 years! It sucks, but I was background wondering when it would happen, so in the end it was really no surprise.
(no subject) - (Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 10:33 pm (UTC) (Expand)
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(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 03:39 pm (UTC)
I have an incredibly good relationship with a breathtakingly gorgeous person who regularly makes me feel special and loved. Our sex life is out of this world, with the small problem of being less frequent than I'd like (but still regular).

So why does so much of my thinking about the relationship go to the small points of dissatisfaction? And why do I always want more?
(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 04:20 pm (UTC)
Because good is good, but better is even better?
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(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 03:43 pm (UTC)
I learned the hard way at/after a play party that I need to learn to manage expectations before hand.

And always work through traumatic stress triggers before playing, and before important discussions.
(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 03:46 pm (UTC)
Given that expectations are kind of definitionally in place before an experience, it's hard for me to imagine thinking there's any time other than beforehand to manage them!
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(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 03:46 pm (UTC)
I'm actually quite happy and stable. But I am also sure too many people have too much invested in the idea of me as a nutbar for that to ever fly in society.
(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 03:50 pm (UTC)
I think people find me more sane and stable that I actually am. I manage to hide it and get things done; make things happen when no one else steps up.

The very few that get to see the real me are not impressed, I'm sure though seem sympathetic to my psychological woes.
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(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 03:47 pm (UTC)
I wish I knew if some of the women whose profile I read on OKC even notice. Or if those who come across mine want me to message them (e.g. show up as some of my Visitors). I can only take the risk and message them myself so much before I get dissuaded by lack of response.
(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 03:51 pm (UTC)
Is it really that much risk?
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*boggle* - drwex on February 3rd, 2010 07:46 pm (UTC) (Expand)
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(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 03:52 pm (UTC)
I am tired of these.
I am 100%, completely, done with the confessionals. They were fun once, now they're just boring and uninteresting. Ego-surfing for mention of yourself, speculating about who is saying what - really. Done.
Pierceheartpierceheart on February 3rd, 2010 03:53 pm (UTC)
Re: I am tired of these.
And the reason you are commenting here, then?

Pot, kettle.
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(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 03:56 pm (UTC)
My partner and I are going to start trying to get pregnant. I love hearing all about my friends who are doing this and the trials and tribulations they face, mostly because those things are so important in my life right now. However, I'm torn between wanting to share each and every detail with those who are interested and keeping it just between the two of us until the third month or so after success.
(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 04:01 pm (UTC)
My wife and I waited until after the 3rd month before we told anybody. Things can happen - give yourself time to enjoy the pregnancy all by yourselves. The other 6 months can be relegated to friends and family squeeing about you.
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(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 03:59 pm (UTC)
I wish so many people in certain communities weren't so willing to overlook psychological and physical abuse to continue befriending one who has committed such acts and not owned up to them. The message that sends to the victim is reprehensible and no doubt sets up the abuser to continue their violent and/or harmful activity.
(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 04:09 pm (UTC)
Oh, you're anonymous. Just tell us who it is you've got beef with.
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David Policar: portraitdpolicar on February 3rd, 2010 04:00 pm (UTC)
These days, within my social circle, I rarely find myself feeling Other by virtue of being in a same-sex relationship, but increasingly find myself feeling Other by virtue of being in a monogamous one.

I think this says some moderately cool things about my social circle, actually.

Oh, and, I don't really do anonymous commenting, but feel free to pretend you don't know who posted this if it will improve your experience of it in some way.
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(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 04:03 pm (UTC)
For a while now, my primary relationship has been with my own personal growth & need for change. Which has been exactly what I've needed! But me and me are growing secure enough in our relationship to open things up, and I'm really starting to crave the way it feels to have a deep connection with someone new. Right about now, I would love to have an epic, headlong, mutual, big shiny crush on somebody!
Rowan: Lickingmzrowan on February 3rd, 2010 04:09 pm (UTC)
Damn you! I really needed to work today!
(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 04:10 pm (UTC)
Haha. This!
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(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 04:12 pm (UTC)
I'm scared that I'll never have a partner other than my live-in partner who will treat me as well as that live-in partner treats his OSO, and who will value our relationship as highly as he values that one, especially in the long run. I thought I'd found this with my last partner, who actually brought me on vacation with him and brought me as his date to a wedding (unheard-of in my past relationships), but now I think that he was only willing to do it because he wasn't dating anyone else seriously, and as soon as he started doing so, he dropped me to be monogamous with her.

Friendships with benefits are great, don't get me wrong. But I want to MATTER to someone for a change.
(Anonymous) on February 3rd, 2010 04:16 pm (UTC)
If you've got good communication with your partner, it's likely he knows this, fears it as well, and wishes there was something he could do to help you.

So, what can he do?
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Pierceheartpierceheart on February 3rd, 2010 04:14 pm (UTC)
Went to my first TKOP this year.

Loved it, so very thankful for the help in getting to it.
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