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21 June 2010 @ 01:00 pm
old shoes  
You know those things you think of as "grown up" things to do? Probably my earliest one of these was staying up late, of course, since going to bed well before my parents did was a big part of my childhood. But there are lots of others, many of which I don't realize I think of as grown up until I do it and feel like I've just earned some kind of grown up status points in my head.

Today, I picked up a pair of shoes from the cobbler, who reattached the upper to the sole on one of them, and resoled both of them, so they're like new. It's actually a little crazy that I've never gotten shoes repaired before; I've been sold on the value of high quality shoes for several years, so it's not like I'm buying cheap, disposable shoes the way I did in my early 20s, but somehow, I've either always lost the shoes, or lost interest in them before they got to the point of needing repairs before now, or they broke in ways that made them seem irreparable.

And, having spent my money to fix a pair of really great shoes rather than replacing them turns out to make me feel like a grown up in a great way.

What makes you feel like a grown up?
 
 
 
lazyzlazyz on June 21st, 2010 05:19 pm (UTC)
You so are grown up!
David Policardpolicar on June 21st, 2010 05:19 pm (UTC)
Very few things make me feel like a grownup; I don't in fact often feel like a grownup.

Some things make me feel middle-aged, but that's completely different.
existential hot showerveek on June 21st, 2010 05:23 pm (UTC)
Shoe repair is a big one, actually. Going work clothes shopping (whether new or used; mostly it's used, but even then the feeling is different from shopping for street clothes). Traveling alone, particularly abroad; in the same vein, road tripping across the country. Financial planning. The rare large purchases — anything from a laptop to a new clutch for my car.

Pretty much anything that either was inaccessible to me when I was younger, or is a challenge that makes me think, "I can handle this."
it's a vain pursuit but it helps me to sleeprezendi on June 21st, 2010 05:28 pm (UTC)
Doing my taxes. But not in a good way.
solopolistceelove on June 21st, 2010 05:34 pm (UTC)
Repointing our basement myself. Preserving food. Caring for my sick child. Buying a car.
harimad on June 21st, 2010 05:44 pm (UTC)
Wanting to go to sleep at 8 pm but not being able to.

Or do you mean "grownup" in a way that doesn't equate to "old"?
mirandamissionista on June 21st, 2010 07:21 pm (UTC)
Writing checks. I love writing checks. It always makes me feel grown up, in a good way.
Susan Constantsconstant on June 21st, 2010 07:28 pm (UTC)
I'm sitting in my first "car line" (to pick up little S. and a buddy from camp) but since we had none of this nonsense when I was growing up, I feel more like one of "them" than a grownup one of me. So this probably doesn't count, but I was amused.
jordanwillow: calvin ponders the starsjordanwillow on June 21st, 2010 08:25 pm (UTC)
realizing i need a will.
Beahbeah on June 21st, 2010 09:43 pm (UTC)
- Buying furniture
- Treating someone to a meal out
- Dealing with insurance (health, car, etc.)
- Having a car seat in my car, particularly when there's a child in it
- Throwing a dinner party
- Hosting a family holiday
- Renewing my drivers license
- Growing a garden
- Grocery shopping
Boring Nerdsignsoflife on June 21st, 2010 09:52 pm (UTC)
Financial planning.
Boring Nerdsignsoflife on June 22nd, 2010 02:34 pm (UTC)
Oh, and I recently realized that *I* can buy hangers. Hangers always were things that were filched from my parents or came from the dry cleaners. The idea that clothes hangers are actually pretty cheap, and can be bought at the supermarket, is a novel one for me.

P.S.: you can return wire hangers to the dry cleaners. I only just learned this.
our lady of perpetual amusementdakotakym on June 22nd, 2010 03:59 am (UTC)
To me, the true mark of being a "grown-up" is being able to make my own decisions and decide where I focus my energy. I love the freedom of choosing which people I share my proverbial "sandbox" with, too.. those who are smart, creative, good-natured, and entertaining have first dibs. If you knock down my castles or throw sand in my eyes, you're banished!

Another interesting part of being a "grown-up" is that people ask my opinion about important stuff, and trust me to know how to find solutions to things. It feels weird and really cool to be considered an "expert" on some topics.
kimcobkimcob on June 22nd, 2010 10:50 am (UTC)
taking care of an aging parent.
sometime going to a fancy, I mean REALLY, fancy restaurant and then paying the bill.
DancingWolfGrrldancingwolfgrrl on June 22nd, 2010 02:24 pm (UTC)
Weird ones:
*knowing what store to buy weird stuff at -- you know, clothespins or shoelaces or that stuff you use when you scratch the finish on your wood floor
*throwing my own pennies into fountains
*sitting on tall barstools

Less weirdly, eating cake for breakfast, mixing drinks, having kids I don't know listen to or believe me, paying bills (but only with paper mail and stamps and checks).

In a not-always-awesome way: doing something that really just has to get done, even though I don't want to do it.

Things that I think should make me feel like a grownup but don't: doing hard emotional shit, giving to charity, cooking dinner, fixing physical objects
naiadnaiad on June 22nd, 2010 05:06 pm (UTC)
Sitting at the bar in a bar.