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19 August 2010 @ 10:09 am
work hard, play hard  
For both wives and husbands in our sample, those who spend more time on household labor report more frequent sex. Even after controlling for time spent in paid labor, the positive association between hours spent on housework with sexual frequency remains, and paid work hours are also positively associated with sexual frequency. These findings suggest that as life gets busier and time gets tighter, a select group of go-getter spouses can successfully balance multiple time commitments. They devote their time to paid work and housework, while maintaining an active sexual life. In other words, rather than compromise their sex life, this group of go-getters seem to make sex a priority. We further speculate that even if women and men adjust their schedules to prioritize having sex, these adjustments do not involve reducing housework or their labor force commitments. In sum, the much lamented speedup of everyday life and resulting time crunch does not appear to have adverse effects on sexual frequency among our sample of married couples.

From Who Has the Time? The Relationship Between Household Labor Time and Sexual Frequency by Gager, C.T. and Yabiku, S.T.
I'm feeling: chipperchipper
T Streich: avviesweetbaboo on August 19th, 2010 02:18 pm (UTC)
It's not work unless you're getting paid, it's not play unless it's fun... I don't see the correlation to domestic chores.

Then again, I'm not married. I wonder if they had a sample of single people, for comparison purposes?
ruthless compassion: martini handsaroraborealis on August 19th, 2010 02:26 pm (UTC)
It's not work unless you're getting paid

I disagree; there's lots of work in life that's unpaid.

I believe they didn't have a sample of single people, but I bet you can access the whole article through one of your libraries and find out!
T Streichsweetbaboo on August 19th, 2010 02:33 pm (UTC)
I'm being a pedantic ass, as usual. I would call that "effort", not "work". Because I'm not allergic to work.

Probably right about the libraries, though. Class starts in a couple weeks, I'll take a look.
ruthless compassion: martini handsaroraborealis on August 19th, 2010 02:41 pm (UTC)
Okay, but is it useful pedantry? That is: what's your point?
T Streichsweetbaboo on August 19th, 2010 03:03 pm (UTC)
The quote seems to make the point that there's a correlation both between work (for money) and household effort (not for money), and sexyfuntime. So it's at least three things, but they're all kind of result oriented.

So it can be reduced to "people who get things done, get things done". Yes?

My initial point was "this confuses me". After talking about it, I'm less confused. I think.
coorr on August 19th, 2010 04:04 pm (UTC)

If you want something done, ask a busy person to do it.
Kcatkcatalyst on August 19th, 2010 02:31 pm (UTC)
Awesome! Can you come over and clean my house? I promise not to pay you, and so it won't be any work at all!
T Streichsweetbaboo on August 19th, 2010 02:34 pm (UTC)
That entirely depends on the odds that our experiment replicates the findings of the study, I suppose.
Kcatkcatalyst on August 19th, 2010 02:48 pm (UTC)
It's possible, but unlikely. I have a preference for feminist men and that assumes at least a basic comprehension of the concept of unpaid household labor.
T Streichsweetbaboo on August 19th, 2010 03:04 pm (UTC)
Yowch. Two personal failures right there. Good call.
born from jets!!!catness on August 19th, 2010 08:08 pm (UTC)
vito_excalibur on August 20th, 2010 03:32 am (UTC)
Oooh. I feel all....houseworky.
coorr on August 19th, 2010 04:03 pm (UTC)

Work is force applied over a distance.

Therefore sex = work (for most values of sex)
Kcatkcatalyst on August 19th, 2010 02:34 pm (UTC)
I feel like the informal paraphrase here is "yes, there ARE people out there who are just managing their lives WAY BETTER THAN YOU. Suck it!"

(And I say that as someone whose life is pretty awesome. It's just... kinda dog-hair-covered.)
fanwfanw on August 19th, 2010 08:06 pm (UTC)
I feel the same! I love my husband, but since I'm working 14 hr nights this week and get home at 7am when he has to go to work, the amount of time we physically share in bed is extremely limited! So, I just want to tell the article "Yes, to a limit." Okay? The logical extreme is that you work two shifts, clean the house, have hot sex on the kitchen table in between shifts, and still have time to raise happy healthy kids. Is that true? I doubt it!
Wild Ravenwildraven on August 19th, 2010 02:36 pm (UTC)
Do the housework, get sex
Other studies have also found, at least when comparing various married households, that the amount of housework a man does directly relates to the amount of sex he has with his wife.

Now they have not proven whether it's the chicken or the egg...

1 - Is it that when a guy does housework, his wife will then have more sex with him?
2 - Is it that when a woman has more sex with her husband, he will do more housework?
3 - Does a close relationship overall cause him to want to help with the house more and her to want to have sex with him more, thus neither causing the other?

Don't know causation, but other studies have shown correlation.

I would like to see more studies where they adjust for him being a stay-at-home, researching who initiates sex, etc.
metagnatmetagnat on August 19th, 2010 02:56 pm (UTC)
Re: Do the housework, get sex
I would imagine that the causation is more complicated than any of the above options - probably combinations of those factors, maybe with additional factors thrown into the bargain. I suspect its wildly different for different folks, as well.
born from jets!!!catness on August 19th, 2010 08:11 pm (UTC)
Re: Do the housework, get sex
I certainly know that if I am feeling overwhelmed, and there's a household imbalance between me and a partner's workload... I am not even slightly disposed towards having sex with that partner until the imbalance is rectified and I have less to do.

Edited at 2010-08-19 08:11 pm (UTC)
Boring Nerdsignsoflife on August 19th, 2010 03:05 pm (UTC)
It really could be as simple as "happy, energetic people are happy and energetic in all aspects of their lives."

Depressed people do less housework and have less sex. It doesn't seem to require a time-management analysis.
Glenncurioushamster on August 20th, 2010 04:37 am (UTC)
Well I can believe that. In my case it's:
housework done == nice clean surfaces to have sex on.