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13 February 2011 @ 06:18 pm
online speed dating  
This year's confessional has turned up many lonely hearts and some missed connections. One of the anonymous posters suggested a quick and dirty personals thread to see if an LJ thread can be used to create a happier 2011.

Here are the rules:

* Post with your regular LJ account.
* Tell us a few things about you.
* Tell us a few things about who you are looking for.
* 239 words or less. (The length of my 2011 confessional post.)
* Include one picture 239 x 239 pixels or less- any picture!
* No replies in the thread - reply directly to the poster.
* The thread closes in one week.

Have at it, and have fun! I want naming rights to any new household that forms as a result of this.
I'm feeling: chipperchipper
B.K. DeLongbkdelong on February 14th, 2011 02:06 am (UTC)
Looking for reincarnation...
I'm feeling a bit...bemused and social. So I'll give it a go.

Recently Separated.
Kitchen&Laundry Boy
Media Connoisseur
Voice Actor

Looking for new adventures with "old" online friends, friends recently made and those whose acquaintence I have yet to make.

Whether it be going out to a movie, concert, or burlesque show; in for a video, home-cooked food that I get to whip out an apron and scrub up dishes from, or a conversation with enough bends to make it fairly certain nothing in the universe is straight - I'm seeking various unique experiences I haven't had the time nor social comfort to explore in the past.

I know there's an incredible host of fascinating men, women, and genderqueer folk - (singles, couples and in group gatherings) that host events and get-togethers I'd like to join in on, be invited to, help out at and contribute to.

From what I hear, there are others who would like similar interactions, conversations, and commiserations based on the list I started with.

Look me up on Facebook or email me at bkdelong@pobox.com with the subject starting with "aroraborealis" such as "facilitated liaisons" or "asynchronous online party hostessing".

(Thanks, aroraborealis !)

Edited at 2011-02-14 12:01 pm (UTC)
MissKitty_79: Montréalmisskitty_79 on February 14th, 2011 03:03 am (UTC)
I think this could be great fun, but alas, I am geographically unsuited to this particular post.
All the best to the rest of you! :)
B.K. DeLongbkdelong on February 14th, 2011 11:46 am (UTC)
I know of at least one person posting to the previous thread based in Montreal, several others who travel up there frequently and between "The Slutcracker" and other efforts occurring between Boston and Montreal, they're almost becoming sister-cities.

If anything, it can't hurt and with this crowd you certainly should give them the benefit of the doubt for willingness to travel up north for a visit or synchronize schedules for mutual visits when in the same vicinities.

Don't sell yourself short. :)
MissKitty_79misskitty_79 on February 14th, 2011 05:04 pm (UTC)
Oh, I'm most definitely not selling myself short, I just know that I have negative interest in becoming involved in another LDR. :)
B.K. DeLongbkdelong on February 14th, 2011 05:32 pm (UTC)
Ah - definitely understood.
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B.K. DeLong: drwho laidbackbkdelong on February 14th, 2011 05:30 pm (UTC)
Re: Opening mself up to the universe
Chemistry is definitely tricky - OKC makes it a lot easier by combining the profile, some of the tests with answering quite a few of the questions. If anything it gives you a strong idea of the person before you reach out to them or at least when you're about to meet them for the first time.

Sent you a note - kudos for opening yourself up. If we don't make ourselves available to what the universe has to offer how do we know what we will find?
stephanie m. clarksonthespian on February 15th, 2011 12:42 am (UTC)
It got too long for a sonnet.
smaller shot of my haircutI moved to Boston town six years ago
To find my friends, community and hope.
And friends I've found in spades- a wide tableau
But love I've found a harder, slip'rier slope.

And so I ask of those who read these strikes:
If thee do not dismiss my simple looks,
I wish a partner found who shares my likes
Theatre, cats, boardgames, cooking, and books.

What else? Well, music, punk and ska - no filk!
But Great Big Sea's ok, Decemberists,
JoCo, Mulvey and oft things of that ilk.
Iambic is a hard way to write lists.

And what of me? I surely should be desc'd.
I'm redhead, freckled, kinky/poly type
And large - too short to be called statuesque
Large girls, I warn, should thus not be your gripe.

If in these silly lines you find a trace
A chance encounter that I am akin
The poetry - an added coup de grace?
Perhaps let something interesting begin.
bountiful-i-licious rexgatopreto on February 15th, 2011 01:21 am (UTC)
Re: It got too long for a sonnet.
Doug Orleans: numbersdougo on February 15th, 2011 12:54 am (UTC)
Hi, I posted specifically about a Valentine's Day date on the confessional thread, but there were a few responses that seemed to say "I like you but I'm busy that day". So, sure, I'll post again here.

Check out my OKCupid profile or my home page for more details, but briefly: I'm a programmer (freelance, i.e. I work from home and have flexible hours). I like indie music & films, board games, disc golf, and geocaching. Somewhat introverted but I like parties and good conversation. I'm 40, straight cis-male, 6'1", average build. I live in Somerville, MA, near Davis Square (Powderhouse).

Looking for... I don't have a laundry list of qualities, I'm just hoping for mutual attraction and compatible personalities. Casual dating/FWB is nice, but I've been doing a lot of that lately and something with potential to become more substantial would be nice too. I'm comfy with poly or mono, whatever works.

If you'd like to meet up sometime for coffee or drinks or whatever, feel free to email me at dougorleans@gmail.com or send me a message on OKCupid.
Doug Orleans: seadougo on February 15th, 2011 09:39 pm (UTC)
It just occurred to me that just summarizing my dating profile is kind of generic, and it might be better to explain what I'm doing here...

A few years ago, I was dating laurenhat. (We met on OKCupid, actually; she was my highest percentage match on the site at the time, and also happened to live a few blocks from me. Fortunately we hit it off in person too.) At a birthday party of hers, I met aroraborealis and a few other folks, whom I eventually friended here on LiveJournal because they seemed like cool people worth reading. I figured I would bump into them again at other parties and the like, but laurenhat graduated and moved west, and the rest of my social circle, while wide, doesn't quite intersect with this one more than tangentially: a few of my good friends' names show up in the confessional occasionally (cthulhia, hahathor, surrealestate, 42itous), but mostly it's people I only know of as friends-of-friends or friends-of-friends-of-friends. Still, I enjoy reading (and occasionally participating in) the confessional every year. And now that I think of it, this year I think I shall make more of an effort to actually (re-)meet more of you in person. Because I'm pretty awesome and I should spread around my awesomeness some more! :)
John: rainy window portraitscherzoid on February 15th, 2011 05:18 am (UTC)
I'm geographically inconvenient to most of you, but I know there are at least a couple other people reading this in the D.C. area. And while I'm not LOOKING for a serious LDR, I'm always happy to make new friends anywhere in the world. And who knows what might develop from that?

I'm a kinky, poly, Kinsey 2-ish cis-male, happily married (to rdhdsnippet) and father of an amazing five-year-old, but not otherwise partnered at the moment. By day, I build websites for a Cabinet agency and drive insane distances to and from work. In my copious spare time (ha!) I take the occasional photograph, read the occasional dead-tree book, and help host the occasional TKOP. I'm a shy extrovert with a slightly warped sense of humor, whose brain is terrible at matching up names, faces, and social network identities. (For much more about me, see my FetLife and OKCupid profiles.)

What am I looking for? Trouble? LJ friends (if we've met face-to-face and you're not on my friends list, it's very possibly due to the above—feel free to add me and let me know in a PM who you are!)? E-mail/chat buddies? Coffee/dinner/movie/concert companions? Lovers of bad puns? Casual playpartners? FWBs? People who give good brain? Long-term partners? Someone to invent a D.C.-to-Boston teleport? Mr. Goodbar? We'll see...
DancingWolfGrrl: braidsdancingwolfgrrl on February 15th, 2011 06:23 pm (UTC)
I love asking for what I want!
But I never know what to say about myself :) I'm almost 30, bi, a witch and serious about it, in love with food (growing, cooking, and eating it), politically left of left, and way too lazy for the regular use of makeup. After several years of vehement opposition, I have discovered the wonders of casual sex, and I'm having a lot of fun right now!

The thing I'm most interested in right now is finding a primary relationship that meshes with all of this fun :) I like my relationships high on trust, snuggles, and self-responsibility. I'm also open to other more casual things, and as a rule, I'm flattered to be asked! I live in the greater Boston area.

(This is me saying "yay!")
HighwayHawkhighwayhawk on February 16th, 2011 01:30 am (UTC)
Me -

* Kinky, poly, romantic, intelligent
* 35 years old
* Usually sexually dominant
* Fit enough to go hiking and dancing
* Fond of lists
* Hirsute
* Interested in having rugrats
* Adventurous in food and life
* Loves to throw TKOPs
* Loves furniture and makes my own
* Loves to dance, mostly blues dancing right now
* Not actually very good at dancing (yet)
* Lives in Watertown

You -

* Kinky, poly, romantic, intelligent
* 25- 40 years old
* Usually sexually submissive
* Fit enough to go hiking and dancing
* Interested in having rugrats
* Likes new adventures
* Comfortable in a sexy dress if you don't wear one often
* Lives in the area

Many of you know me as a flirt and someone who is happy to play with three different people at a party. What can I say, I'm a happy & friendly slut! I like making out with strange women, but eventually I want to come home with and wake up beside the love of my life.

I think about my life, where it is going, where I want it to go, and make changes to support those desires. I want a partner in a thoughtful journey through life.

PS: Many of you may know me as "Match Stick". Please feel free to friend me on LJ if you do. Most of my posts are friends only.
catcatya on February 16th, 2011 11:26 pm (UTC)
outside the pool....
I love my wonderful web of friends, but i'm trying to date outside the pool. (I know, crazytalk!) If you know me very well, live at Mosaic or Camelot, or have slept with a recent ex or close friend of mine, think of someone else to introduce me to ;)

Casual is fine as long as it's friendly and honest, more than casual is fine as long as there's no pressure to make it a Big Thing. If you're looking for a primary, check back in a year or two or three.

I'm 40, 'single mom' to a pre-teen, cis-woman. Omnivore/Poly/Switch. I collect nicknames, but mostly people call me 'cat'.

I have a weakness for redheads and long hair and androgyny, but none of those are requirements. i like confidence and assertiveness but not so much arrogance. I have an honesty fetish. I sometimes date people who aren't musicians or dancers. I also sometimes date people who aren't all the way out of the closet, but that trick never works.

If you are annoyed by people who talk fast, i will drive you nuts. (I'm a clasic ENTJ, i drive plenty of people nuts. I try to be ok with that.)

a fountain of blood in the shape of a girlcatling on February 19th, 2011 01:11 pm (UTC)
Oh, sure, what the heck.

Erudite, complex, intense, ocean heart, with brain on fire single mother full time student seeks modern day Han Solo or Luke Skywalker for romance and assistance subverting the Empire. I think light saber duels are a marvelous form of courtship.

I have HSV1, oral Herpes, in case you didn't hear from all the other places I've tried to trumpet it. If that makes you not risk it, you're missing some great kisses, but it's your choice and your loss.

I don't have time for romance, but the lack of it in my life is slowly withering something important inside of my secret tucked away heart, so I'm opening the door again. The photo in this icon is from me dancing at Bootie Boston a year and change ago.

Cis-woman, pansexual but generally have the strongest sparks with cis-men or trans-men.

I am not looking to be the secondary or random playmate of a married person right now, so please do not reply if you are married. Yes, there are some married folks I sometimes kiss and whatnot, but for purposes of answering this personal, please to be single, or at least not involved already with a Primary - thanks!

Edited at 2011-02-19 01:14 pm (UTC)
sinboysinboy on February 19th, 2011 02:32 pm (UTC)
Oh sure. Why not.
*I'm in NY, but travel to Boston often, and have been known to travel more often for a potential connection as long as that person comes to see me as well

*I like to cook, play dice & paper RPGs, read, drink the good stuff in moderation, hike, travel, and make things happen. Music wise, I like jazz, classic rock, classical, and have a musical flings with esoterica like Polynesian chants, Bhangra, and flamenco. I don't own a TV. I like modern and classical art, and would love to go to art museums more often.

*Existing relationship wise, I live with and am married to rosefox and have a MDR (medium distance relationship) with someone else who's more private.

*I'm looking for someone I might fall in love with, or fall into a deep, close, meaningful friendship with. I'm not looking for casual fun. I won't say no if it comes along, but I really prefer love.

*I'm a cis bi, poly switchy leaning to subby male. I'm attracted to butch queer women, long haired bi males, and mostly, to intelligent people. It's hard to say what makes my heart go *ping*. I've fallen for people totally outside of this set of qualities. Except for the intelligent one. That seems to be a standard.

Edited at 2011-02-19 02:37 pm (UTC)