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19 March 2011 @ 08:28 am
what goes around goes around  
In my 20s, I remember hearing my friends who had entered their 30s talking about how all of their friends who were now in their 40s talking about how in their 30s, they had started noticing their bodies just hurt more often, sometimes with reason and sometimes just miscellaneous aches and pains that would come and go. And my friends in their 30s all talked about how they thought that wouldn't happen to them, but here they were in their 30s and lo and behold, they were finding the exact same thing. And then they'd pop an ibuprofen or two.

And, of course, I remember hearing all that and thinking, "Well, that won't happen to me." But, of course, I was wrong.

I still love my body, even more as the years pass, interestingly, and feel great in it, but it's definitely accumulating its share of aches and pains. I have a persistent pain in my low back that I blame on my chair at WalkBoston. A couple of weeks ago, I developed pain in both shoulders that I self-diagnosed as shoulder bursitis and treated with lots of ice and ibuprofen, and it's mostly better now, as long as I'm gentle with them. Earlier this week, my left foot started mysteriously hurting, and it's either a stress fracture or a badly pulled muscle or tendon, and though it's also responding very well to ice and ibuprofen, there's definitely a big part of me thinking, "Well, crap, I really did think this wasn't going to happen to me."
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Elizabeth Hunterlillibet on March 19th, 2011 04:19 pm (UTC)
You may have already considered and discarded the possibility, but whenever I hear "foot pain" I think plantar fasciitis, for which the best thing found by myself and several other friends who've had it is stretching, particularly downward dog or anything else that stretch-flexes the foot, particularly first thing in the morning. Regardless of the source, I hope it improves quickly.

And yes, the aches pile up. I remember staying up all night in college, to the point that I was aching from exhaustion, and thinking "I bet this is what aging feels like". I was right--I get the same aches in the same places, but now I don't have to stay up all night to achieve them.

ruthless compassion: martini handsaroraborealis on March 19th, 2011 07:04 pm (UTC)
Thanks, I've had plantar fasciitis (though thankfully not recently!), and this is not that -- the pain is on the top of my foot, rather than along the bottom.
born from jets!!!: wtfcatness on March 19th, 2011 05:54 pm (UTC)
Flowers For Algernon

I never thought aging incapacities *wouldn't* happen to me, but one thing I was totally blown away by was that nobody ever mentioned how much DUMBER YOU GET! Did it just not happen to anybody else in my family or among my older friends? Did they not give a hoot about intellectual capacity or perhaps not notice the decline? Auuuugggh. There's no doubt that I have a really Not Cool relationship recently with the physical, but it's the mental stuff that really kills me.
What do you think we are, Monkeys on Sticks???goat on March 19th, 2011 06:17 pm (UTC)
The funny thing is that being a person with chronic pain, my body hurts less now than it did in my 20s! (thanks to massage, stretching, PT, and acupuncture)

Also, I'm smarter now and learn a lot better than I did back then.
Renata Piperlyonesse on March 19th, 2011 06:18 pm (UTC)
ditto. i've been in pain since my twenties, but it's more often bearable or less now than it was in previous years.
phi: firetotient on March 19th, 2011 09:35 pm (UTC)
Yeah, this. I did a lot of dumb things in my teens and some of it hurt, chronically, for years afterwards. Twenty-odd years later that has mostly faded. And while I still do some of those same dumb things, I'm at least better at falling without injuring myself now, so there aren't as many recent aches and pains these days.
ceelove on March 19th, 2011 06:20 pm (UTC)
One of the biggest side-benefits of my career: I learned very early from my clients that my body would get slower and achier in my 30s, so I appreciated my non-achy 20s more than most.
unintentionally intimidatingcoraline on March 19th, 2011 07:29 pm (UTC)
it's amazing that we all hear that and yet somehow most of still think "but it won't happen to me..."
fanwfanw on March 19th, 2011 07:45 pm (UTC)
Um, it won't happen to me, right? Right?
*cricket* *cricket*
blk: bruiseblk on March 19th, 2011 09:34 pm (UTC)
For me, it's not so much the random miscellaneous aches and pains (yet) as the injuries that heal a lot slower. Last summer, I hurt my knee reasonably badly, and I'm accepting now that this may be the first injury I've had that I'm just -never- going to completely get over. Frustrating!
vito_excalibur on March 19th, 2011 10:18 pm (UTC)
Hahaha. You might as well believe that though, it will happen whether you believe it or not and at least you don't have to waste your healthy years dreading their end!
drwexdrwex on March 21st, 2011 04:20 pm (UTC)
Ours all seem to expire at about the same time. Annoying. Someone should get on with fixing that.
our lady of perpetual amusement: sewdakotakym on March 22nd, 2011 06:31 am (UTC)
I'm one of those rare creatures who actually feels WAY better in her 30's than her 20's.. no more menstrual cramps, headaches, digestive maladies, or low back pain -> yay! I do eat really well, move regularly, and do a ton of self-care, though (weekly muscular therapy and chiropractic, regular yoga & dance & hiking, weight training, etc.). I also cultivate joy in ways that I never thought about when I was younger, and focus on adapting to my environment and creating flow than on swimming against the current (unless there's a worthwhile reason for it). Or perhaps it could be that I inherited my paternal grandfather's absolute disregard for pain.. ;P
harimad on March 24th, 2011 01:42 pm (UTC)
Huh. I never heard anyone other than certain relatives (the complainy ones) talk about this. My random aches, pains, and slow=to-recovers didn't start till my 40s. Since I didn't have kids till about 40 I can't tell if the cause is age or kids. There's nothing I can do about either so perhaps it doesn't matter, to me at least.

None of it is major but some are inconvenient. I can't sit still for long periods of time without feeling still when I do move. I can't sleep on any bed or pillow and be comfortable (I now travel with my own pillow if I can, a sure sign of age to me). I get sick more often and recover more slowly from illnesses and aches; the illnesses bit may be child-related, they are major disease vectors and cause me to be chronically a bit short of sleep.

One thing is much better. My feet no longer ache all the time. (It wasn't planar f. and I wish people would stop suggesting it every time I mention the pain. There *are* other foot problems in this world.) I didn't get healthier, I got smarter: I scknowledged the ache. After 5-6 years of experimentation I discovered that while massage made them feel better temporarily, the required permanent change was not going barefoot most of the time. I know wear Siebel sandals while indoors and am a much happier camper.